Archive for the ‘Self Help’ Category
Laura Garrison asked:
Trust can be construed as one of the greatest of all assets. Its presence signifies an ability to move forward in life rather than be in contention with it.
Whatever we hold in our mind instantly takes on energetic form and thus manifests into physical form. When we distrust ourselves and those around us, we energetically set ourselves up for disappointment. When we trust, we feel at ease and at peace even in the face of adversity. Many of us, however, have been challenged by circumstantial setbacks, sometimes of such immense magnitude in our lives that we wonder if there will be another day worth working for. I, for one, have found myself disheartened to the point of being immobilized and questioning each and every decision I had once so calmly made.
Shouting “Why me?” at our Creator
When we meet with setbacks and disappointments in our lives, it’s easy to become discouraged and distrusting of ourselves and others. I experienced having a friend renege on several long-standing and very pivotal business agreements that cost me not only tens of thousands of dollars in income and countless hours of lost time, it also cost the trust and friendships of other business partners as well. What ensued was a collapse of many of the business models and relationships that had taken years to build. Things went over like dominoes, in a sense, one agreement, relationship or friendship, hinging on another.
Was I angry? Of course.
Dealing with Disappointment
I was thus faced with rebuilding my business and reinventing who I was when all my financial reserves were literally and completely gone. My once perfect credit had vanished and my credit lines were cancelled. People that I put first, ahead of my own well being, people I thought would stand by me through thick and thin, quickly and quietly disappeared. My family of origin, including a sister who had come into a sizeable inheritance through a man she married decided that I was the pariah and ceased contact, holding me personally responsible when, in fact, I was doing the very best I could to remedy the situation. My husband, though he insisted otherwise, inwardly blamed me for much of what happened. He would be up for less than an hour in the morning before the dry heaves would begin, and he shut down emotionally to the point that he required medication to get through each day.
Virtually everything we had worked for had been devastated: our business, our finances, our home, and our health. It was a “horrific train wreck of an accident without the blood and guts” according to one of the attorneys involved.
Beginning Again: Polarities
The only way out of a situation, quite often, is to simply go through that situation. Yet, as saddened and disappointed as I was in my circumstances, I decided that every day above the ground was still reason to celebrate. As bad as things were, I decided the place where I had landed in my life just was not worth dying for. I could choose to begin again or fold. Each of us is faced with this same choice on a daily basis in many ways and on a multitude of levels.
Disappointment in some form is an integral part of life and in order to experience success we all must face setbacks or disappointments. Allowing ourselves to become paralyzed and contemptuous, however, can bring about more of the same feelings, behaviors, and responses from the world around us, thereby exacerbating an already glum situation. We’re crushed, we feel defeated, and we wonder if life is even worth getting out of bed for in the morning. From an observer’s point of view, we can often clearly see when another becomes caught in the vicious cycle of self-imposed setback and downfall yet seeing that within our own lives requires the knowledge and trust that we are on a journey of self-evolvement.
Knowing that there is a polarity of setbacks and successes can give us the necessary confidence to maintain our trust in ourselves and focus forward on our goals. The gift is in the release and detachment that trust requires, both of ourselves and of those around us. Perhaps the most pivotal message sometimes is not about us at all. Sometimes the lesson is about the others whom we are involved with, people we have been selected to teach.
Growth is change and change can sometimes be quite painful until we move into the new state of awareness that growth always brings with it. When adversities appear in our lives we can embrace the gift of Life and of the new awareness the adversity has within it or we can choose to ruminate to the point of becoming heartbroken and powerless in our lives-a place of arrested development and sometimes death. And why choose a permanent solution such as death for a temporary situation in your life? All situations are indeed temporary; no matter how good or bad, the situation will always end.
Life is an upward spiral of learning, experiences, growth and awareness. We can choose chaos or we can choose peace. Likewise, we can also choose to embrace the inherent lessons along the way.
Krysta Stant
Trust can be construed as one of the greatest of all assets. Its presence signifies an ability to move forward in life rather than be in contention with it.
Whatever we hold in our mind instantly takes on energetic form and thus manifests into physical form. When we distrust ourselves and those around us, we energetically set ourselves up for disappointment. When we trust, we feel at ease and at peace even in the face of adversity. Many of us, however, have been challenged by circumstantial setbacks, sometimes of such immense magnitude in our lives that we wonder if there will be another day worth working for. I, for one, have found myself disheartened to the point of being immobilized and questioning each and every decision I had once so calmly made.
Shouting “Why me?” at our Creator
When we meet with setbacks and disappointments in our lives, it’s easy to become discouraged and distrusting of ourselves and others. I experienced having a friend renege on several long-standing and very pivotal business agreements that cost me not only tens of thousands of dollars in income and countless hours of lost time, it also cost the trust and friendships of other business partners as well. What ensued was a collapse of many of the business models and relationships that had taken years to build. Things went over like dominoes, in a sense, one agreement, relationship or friendship, hinging on another.
Was I angry? Of course.
Dealing with Disappointment
I was thus faced with rebuilding my business and reinventing who I was when all my financial reserves were literally and completely gone. My once perfect credit had vanished and my credit lines were cancelled. People that I put first, ahead of my own well being, people I thought would stand by me through thick and thin, quickly and quietly disappeared. My family of origin, including a sister who had come into a sizeable inheritance through a man she married decided that I was the pariah and ceased contact, holding me personally responsible when, in fact, I was doing the very best I could to remedy the situation. My husband, though he insisted otherwise, inwardly blamed me for much of what happened. He would be up for less than an hour in the morning before the dry heaves would begin, and he shut down emotionally to the point that he required medication to get through each day.
Virtually everything we had worked for had been devastated: our business, our finances, our home, and our health. It was a “horrific train wreck of an accident without the blood and guts” according to one of the attorneys involved.
Beginning Again: Polarities
The only way out of a situation, quite often, is to simply go through that situation. Yet, as saddened and disappointed as I was in my circumstances, I decided that every day above the ground was still reason to celebrate. As bad as things were, I decided the place where I had landed in my life just was not worth dying for. I could choose to begin again or fold. Each of us is faced with this same choice on a daily basis in many ways and on a multitude of levels.
Disappointment in some form is an integral part of life and in order to experience success we all must face setbacks or disappointments. Allowing ourselves to become paralyzed and contemptuous, however, can bring about more of the same feelings, behaviors, and responses from the world around us, thereby exacerbating an already glum situation. We’re crushed, we feel defeated, and we wonder if life is even worth getting out of bed for in the morning. From an observer’s point of view, we can often clearly see when another becomes caught in the vicious cycle of self-imposed setback and downfall yet seeing that within our own lives requires the knowledge and trust that we are on a journey of self-evolvement.
Knowing that there is a polarity of setbacks and successes can give us the necessary confidence to maintain our trust in ourselves and focus forward on our goals. The gift is in the release and detachment that trust requires, both of ourselves and of those around us. Perhaps the most pivotal message sometimes is not about us at all. Sometimes the lesson is about the others whom we are involved with, people we have been selected to teach.
Growth is change and change can sometimes be quite painful until we move into the new state of awareness that growth always brings with it. When adversities appear in our lives we can embrace the gift of Life and of the new awareness the adversity has within it or we can choose to ruminate to the point of becoming heartbroken and powerless in our lives-a place of arrested development and sometimes death. And why choose a permanent solution such as death for a temporary situation in your life? All situations are indeed temporary; no matter how good or bad, the situation will always end.
Life is an upward spiral of learning, experiences, growth and awareness. We can choose chaos or we can choose peace. Likewise, we can also choose to embrace the inherent lessons along the way.
Krysta Stant
Mashubi Rochell asked:
Bringing healing to family relationships can be one of the most difficult aspects of the spiritual healing process. The reason for this is that we choose to incarnate within our specific families for the purpose of healing and growth, which often challenges us deeply to the core of our being. For many of us it may feel as though healing is exactly the opposite of what we are receiving with our families, as we endure the difficulties and limitations of our relationships with our parents and siblings.
Before incarnating, we choose families which can bring to the surface specific issues and themes that our soul wishes to explore, learn about and heal. Often these issues are challenging and bring to the surface discomfort that we would prefer go avoid rather than face. Some people deal with this discomfort by placing blame on their parents or the situation they were born into, which provides a temporary outlet for the emotional pain they have experienced, but ultimately prevents the free flow of love, light and healing in the heart.
As we grow personally and spiritually, there comes a time when we are called to release ourselves from the emotional pain we have carried from our childhood. There are steps in this process, which may taker a shorter or longer time, or which may involve many lifetimes of learning.
The first step we take is to become conscious of the pain we are carrying. If we have repressed these feelings, they will emerge when we are ready to face them. Sometimes an event such as an illness or a loss can illuminate feelings we have buried or forgotten. Once we become conscious of the pain and allow ourselves to simply feel it, healing can begin. Being with the pain, and bringing it before God is an essential part of the process. In this way we are not alone, as the divine Creator who is All sees, hears and feels with us. This can be done with prayer, intention, meditation, creative expression, or any way that resonates.
Once we have become more conscious of the pain we carry, the next step involves the willingness to let go of our pain. Though on the surface it may seem strange to want to hold onto pain, there are many deep emotions that can become entrenched within us, and wrapped around our sense of self. We unconsciously hold on to the pain, because it is all we have ever known. For example, if we are carrying anger, hurt or betrayal, we are asked to forgive and to move on. If we were the victim of abuse or neglect, we are asked to let go of our anger, and our entitlement to be angry. This part of the process cannot be rushed, which is why it is so important to be willing to feel our emotions fully first. Once this happens, the next step of healing naturally unfolds.
Once we have traversed these steps of becoming conscious, feeling our pain, and being willing to let it go, then we are fully available to receive a deep and complete healing. As we voluntarily empty ourselves of those things we’ve been holding onto, more of God’s love and light can enter our heart, mind and body. The pathways of life begin to open up and reveal new directions, new possibilities, and new choices. Our hearts begin to open and love blossoms, forgiveness becomes a way of being, and spiritual awareness awakens within us. These are the gifts that come through healing family relationships, a heart full of love and trust, unencumbered by the pain of the past.
Annmarie Klos
Bringing healing to family relationships can be one of the most difficult aspects of the spiritual healing process. The reason for this is that we choose to incarnate within our specific families for the purpose of healing and growth, which often challenges us deeply to the core of our being. For many of us it may feel as though healing is exactly the opposite of what we are receiving with our families, as we endure the difficulties and limitations of our relationships with our parents and siblings.
Before incarnating, we choose families which can bring to the surface specific issues and themes that our soul wishes to explore, learn about and heal. Often these issues are challenging and bring to the surface discomfort that we would prefer go avoid rather than face. Some people deal with this discomfort by placing blame on their parents or the situation they were born into, which provides a temporary outlet for the emotional pain they have experienced, but ultimately prevents the free flow of love, light and healing in the heart.
As we grow personally and spiritually, there comes a time when we are called to release ourselves from the emotional pain we have carried from our childhood. There are steps in this process, which may taker a shorter or longer time, or which may involve many lifetimes of learning.
The first step we take is to become conscious of the pain we are carrying. If we have repressed these feelings, they will emerge when we are ready to face them. Sometimes an event such as an illness or a loss can illuminate feelings we have buried or forgotten. Once we become conscious of the pain and allow ourselves to simply feel it, healing can begin. Being with the pain, and bringing it before God is an essential part of the process. In this way we are not alone, as the divine Creator who is All sees, hears and feels with us. This can be done with prayer, intention, meditation, creative expression, or any way that resonates.
Once we have become more conscious of the pain we carry, the next step involves the willingness to let go of our pain. Though on the surface it may seem strange to want to hold onto pain, there are many deep emotions that can become entrenched within us, and wrapped around our sense of self. We unconsciously hold on to the pain, because it is all we have ever known. For example, if we are carrying anger, hurt or betrayal, we are asked to forgive and to move on. If we were the victim of abuse or neglect, we are asked to let go of our anger, and our entitlement to be angry. This part of the process cannot be rushed, which is why it is so important to be willing to feel our emotions fully first. Once this happens, the next step of healing naturally unfolds.
Once we have traversed these steps of becoming conscious, feeling our pain, and being willing to let it go, then we are fully available to receive a deep and complete healing. As we voluntarily empty ourselves of those things we’ve been holding onto, more of God’s love and light can enter our heart, mind and body. The pathways of life begin to open up and reveal new directions, new possibilities, and new choices. Our hearts begin to open and love blossoms, forgiveness becomes a way of being, and spiritual awareness awakens within us. These are the gifts that come through healing family relationships, a heart full of love and trust, unencumbered by the pain of the past.
Annmarie Klos
Simon Perkins asked:
Q. What happens when we feel the need to impress by trying to “do it all” ourselves? We let ego get in the way of reality, and subsequently place pressure on ourselves.
The result? We take on too much and end up making mistakes or failing to get things done “as and when expected.” In turn, we invite ridicule and judgment from ourselves, our friends and family, and our colleagues. The solution? To build relationships with those around us so to collectively share our skills, experience and resource.
Q. Are You?
- Constantly Trying To Impress By Taking On Too Much?
- Thinking You Can “Do It All?”
- Listening To Your Ego Instead Of Your Integrity?
Begin making the transformation today!
Q. What’s In It For You?
- Develop And Strengthen New And Existing Relationships
- Discover The Benefits Of Sharing Wisdom And Responsibility
- Learn How Collaboration Is Key To Success
By learning to work and share with others, we develop greater trust and understanding in ourselves, and greater respect and appreciation for our environment. In turn, we build positive and constructive alliances that produce valuable and proactive solutions for all concerned.
How do we achieve this? Simple – we push our ego to one side and acknowledge what it is we “bring to the table” and what it is we need assistance with. In doing so we move ourselves into a place of integrity that encourages genuine results through collaboration, thus preventing our ego dictating what we must to do to impress (either ourselves or someone else). Result – our natural-self radiates both within and without, attracting both greater relationships and greater opportunities.
INQUIRY: Take a look back at some recent occasions where you tried “doing it all” for the sake of making an impression. How often and how much did you let your ego dictate? What were the outcomes? Had you been coming more from a place of integrity what could you have done differently?
ACTION: For the next thirty days, be open and honest with yourself when faced with such opportunities. If your ego leaps in asking to be fed, shove it to one side and look at where you can collaborate for greater success. Notice how by revealing your integrity you naturally develop a stronger relationship with yourself and with those around you.
I wish you every success as you Learn To Build And Trust In InterDependent Relationships …
Best Wishes
Simon
“Integrity without knowledge is weak and useless, and knowledge without integrity is dangerous and dreadful,” Samuel Johnson
Gerardo Wilczewski
Q. What happens when we feel the need to impress by trying to “do it all” ourselves? We let ego get in the way of reality, and subsequently place pressure on ourselves.
The result? We take on too much and end up making mistakes or failing to get things done “as and when expected.” In turn, we invite ridicule and judgment from ourselves, our friends and family, and our colleagues. The solution? To build relationships with those around us so to collectively share our skills, experience and resource.
Q. Are You?
- Constantly Trying To Impress By Taking On Too Much?
- Thinking You Can “Do It All?”
- Listening To Your Ego Instead Of Your Integrity?
Begin making the transformation today!
Q. What’s In It For You?
- Develop And Strengthen New And Existing Relationships
- Discover The Benefits Of Sharing Wisdom And Responsibility
- Learn How Collaboration Is Key To Success
By learning to work and share with others, we develop greater trust and understanding in ourselves, and greater respect and appreciation for our environment. In turn, we build positive and constructive alliances that produce valuable and proactive solutions for all concerned.
How do we achieve this? Simple – we push our ego to one side and acknowledge what it is we “bring to the table” and what it is we need assistance with. In doing so we move ourselves into a place of integrity that encourages genuine results through collaboration, thus preventing our ego dictating what we must to do to impress (either ourselves or someone else). Result – our natural-self radiates both within and without, attracting both greater relationships and greater opportunities.
INQUIRY: Take a look back at some recent occasions where you tried “doing it all” for the sake of making an impression. How often and how much did you let your ego dictate? What were the outcomes? Had you been coming more from a place of integrity what could you have done differently?
ACTION: For the next thirty days, be open and honest with yourself when faced with such opportunities. If your ego leaps in asking to be fed, shove it to one side and look at where you can collaborate for greater success. Notice how by revealing your integrity you naturally develop a stronger relationship with yourself and with those around you.
I wish you every success as you Learn To Build And Trust In InterDependent Relationships …
Best Wishes
Simon
“Integrity without knowledge is weak and useless, and knowledge without integrity is dangerous and dreadful,” Samuel Johnson
Gerardo Wilczewski