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I am still young. Sometimes, i see my self ugly or people do not like me. However, i am successful person through my work, family and studying. For example, if i have a meeting outside with someone for a first time, i begin to say that they won’t like me in place of saying they will enjoy their time with me.
Is that natural for us?. And how can we develop our trusts on ourselves?.
Queenie Manlove
I’m 14 and have a older sister and brother. My older brother is 16 and still live with us. My oldest sister who is 20 has been living with us for two years because my mom needs her support because my step dad has been unable to work.
My step dad and mom have been together for 9 years. They have an 8 and 3 year old children together.
But my step dad has been dependent on anti depression and alcohol ever since his father passed two years ago. So he has not been able to work for past two year. I really understand his difficulty and have always been very supportive of him. I know he’ll get over it soon and he’ll be back working.
But my sister is upset because her boyfriend who is a bodyguard for some bigwig have been supporting her so she can quit her second job and take online college course. She is blaming my step dad for taking up her boyfriend’s pay and her education away from her. So they doesn’t get along too well.
So yesterday my brother was talking to my sister about how he could avoid ending up like her. When my step dad overheard their conversation, he got mad and tells them that he’d get a job soon. They all started to argued. When my step dad slapped my brother, my sister pushed him and tells him to leave my brother lone. That’s when my step dad slapped my sister too. My brother end up tried to fight with my step dad, that’s when my mom jumped in to try break it up. My mom got hurt by accident.
My sister was upset so she went to her boyfriend. A couple hours later, he came and told everyone to go in their room. So we all did. But I watch through the door. I can see him talking with my step dad. I can tell he was pissing my step dad off. So my step dad tried to push him out of the house. But my step dad end up got thrown and beats by my sister’s boyfriend. That’s when I came out and tried to stop it. My sister’s boyfriend pull out a gun and pushed my step dad out of the house and tell him to get a job and fix himself up and if he come back and didn’t get everything sort out, he’ll be shot.
Now my sister’s boyfriend have been here ever since. I have seen him brought in bunches of foods, buy new blankets for my younger brother, and other things. This is really scaring me. This guy is only 24 years old and yet my mom and older brother and sister seems to really trust him.
I don’t understand why they would trust this guy with everything. Why would they let him take over the house?
Greta Mattier
Pretend (or if you know what it feels like you don’t need to pretend unfortunately) this is a person who you love and care about. You think this person has so much potential and has a good heart but is going to push all her/his family and friends out of his/her life and eventually self-destruct. Would you try to help them even though they keep hurting you? Would you still love them but not want anything to do with them? Thanks.
Eartha Greenier
-Have you been in one yourself?
Remember, please, this is very hypothetical, don’t ask me if I’m in such situation because trust me, I’m not. =) Just wondering cause I know people that have gone and are still going through it.
Cinda Rowley
I’m DID, that’s Dissociative Identity Dissorder and it essentially means that I hear voices. It’s something I’ve come to terms with and am ready to share about. The only problem is that the society I live in is very conservative and will listen to media hype before real people. Add to it that my parents hardly trust me to drive across the street and it puts me in a very bad situation. I want to be honest about myself and make people understand, but I’m worried that it’ll only end up with people not believing me or trying to lock me away.
I am 18, going into college next semister, and this is undiagnosed for fear that others would know. No one notices, either, because I learned early on how to hide what I’m think and appear as something else. No matter what kind of arguments or drama is going on in my head, I always appear mostly stable.
Kraig Darring
I have really bad trust issues. I cant seem to trust anyone, whether it be my family, friends, collegues, internet people ANYONE! I have ONE person who I have some sort of trust bond with, but I spend the whole time stressing over it and panicking over whether she will speak or something that I drive myself and her crazy..
I had alot of trust breakdowns when I was a kid and I sort of learnt ‘never to trust anyone but yourself’ but I’m going mad bottling everything up!!
Freddy Pennigton
I used to be like an open book, but got tired of people using me and manipulating me. This includes friends and family. Now I’ve realized that I’ve changed so much, I don’t trust anyone with the sensitive things. I joke around with people close to me and hear them out when something bothers them but I’m unable to tell them things that make me vulnerable. Is it normal to be this way?
Lauran Ogley
Who would be more honest, trust to give you an accurate answer, people off of yahoo answer or your own family members?
Or would you trust your own opinion and instincts, meaning if you think a person doesn’t look like someone, you would believe in yourself that they don’t.
Clayton Edgehill
I’m 18 and I haven’t completely trusted anyone since freshman year. Not friends, boyfriends or family cause I always end up getting fcked over and walked all over. But the guy I’ve been dating for the past 5 months is absolutely great. He’s really open with me and he’s never gave me a reason not to trust him but I just can’t and it’s really starting to bother me. I know it’s probably more of a mental thing but is there anything I can do to maybe get myself to trust him more?
Kieth Stukes
Does anyone have any insight on this?
I’ve noticed that most of my failed trust in significant others generally comes from my lack of trust in my family and other members of it growing up.
I had one parent in particular who’d lie to me about the other for years (still does today, but I am now old enough to call them out on it, sometimes…), and I have a feeling that relationship has conflicted with the trust (or lack thereof) I can/can’t have in anyone else because of being unsure of who/what to believe in as a child. I have even gone on to sabotage myself self-consciously in different areas of my life out of pure fear of what could happen; particularly in love.
I shy away from showing my feelings to people I am attracted to, even when I clearly know they are attracted to me as well.
I am not a bad looking guy, but even when there’s a girl who approaches me in a flirtatious way I inadvertently give them the cold shoulder. Not because I don’t find them attractive, but to be truthfully honest, because I am afraid of what could happen, good or bad. I guess I would rather not want to set myself up for a potential failure or rather waste my time opening to someone who will eventually not matter in the future.
There aren’t many people that I whole-heartedly trust, so when I open up to someone, I like to be sure that they’re 100% worth it, but at times I feel my 100% is probably 1000% on another person’s scale. I guess I’m afraid to open to someone who could probably disappear, or let me down.
Does anyone have an idea of what this may be called??? Does the fact that I grew up not trusting the people I should have been have a more serious effect on this??? Do I have some sort of psychological disorder that needs to be corrected??? Recommendations of how I can get over it???
I’m a 25 year-old male. Thanks.
Brandon Hadsell