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I met this guy and is soooo wonderful. I almost don’t feel good enough for him. Kinda like he could do a whole lot better than me. He has a big house and makes really good money and I come from a poor family. Besides that I have horrible trust and jealousy issues and I want to get over them but don’t know how. He is a very laid back kinda guy and I don’t wanna ruin what we could have. What should I do?
Thanks Happy For Life. That does seem like it would work.
Kira Santore
My best friend and I tell each other everything….you?
Nathanael Clauson
Not quite a year ago, I lied to my mate. It was what I thought was a meaningless lie. I had hoped he had gotten me pregnant, we had discussed this before. I bought a test and the first one was negative. I saved the second in my car to take later. He later asked me if I thought I was pregnant. I told him I wasn’t sure. He asked if I had testeed, and for some reason I said no. He later found the second test, and his impression was that I thought I was pregnant and was hiding it from him. His conclusion was if I was hiding this and lying then it must be because I was sleeping around.
In all honesty, it was a nonsensical lie, and I have never thought of cheating on him.
Time has passed, and I thought we had gotten over it, but he was using my phone and saw a number he did not recognize. I explained that it was an old coworker of mine, who did not have a phone and that number was her fiance’s number.
All the past came back and he is paranoid that I am sleeping around on him. For true feedback- I am not cheating. I want to spend the rest of my life with this guy. I offered to call the number or give him the info, and he said I guess we jst have trust issues. I asked how I can help fix things and he said to just give it time.
Is this really the only solution? And does time really help mend this sort of thing? If there is something I can do to ease his worries, I would do them…
We have a four year old and am terrified that the lack of trust will ultimately be our undoing… I want to save my family.
Any advise?
To clarify, he asked me if I had taken any test and I lied and said no, when in fact I had. I guess in my delusional thinking, I had some thought that if I waited, I might be pregnant and then could surprise him with the exciting news, but my secret really hurt him. And it wasn’t him being over suspicious. It was my shady behavior. I don’t know why it came out of my mouth.
There was also an incident when we first were dating, he asked me if I had been checking on my ex (online) I told him no because I didn’t want him to think I was still “hanging on” but he was over one night and saw on my computer that I was in fact reading my ex’s myspace and he was upset that I didn’t tell him the truth. I think I have always had abandonment issues, and tried to tell him what I thought he wanted to hear. I have been focusing on my reactions and responses and have not lied to him again. I have tried to be very open. The number has been on my phone for years, he just happened to see it and is upset.
Kristi Labonte
My name is Rachel and im 16 years old. My mother passed away when I was 13 years old and I had to move in with my dad and step mom.
Step mom- Very strict, will make ur life miserable if things don’t go her way, cheats on my dad
Dad- stubborn, never listens, he’ll do anything to try and keep my step mom happy, very religious, my dad doesn’t believe that my step mom cheats on him
Me- calm, quiet yet I do have my moments lol, over think things, NOT RELIGIOUS, a bit stubborn, try to take time to listen and understand
The reason why I mentioned this info is because you wont be able to understand as well.
All my life ive been a good child and everyon trusted me. I never really felt the need to go behind my dad and step moms back.
Then I met a guy name Richard my freshmen year…
He became my boyfriend in the beginning of my sophomore year….
We spent alot of time together but here is the thing… I skipped school with him!
Thats when I started going behind my parents back :/ Sadly
Me and him grew to really like eachother, I guess you could say love, but maybe its just lust?
I started skipping school so much that I lost count
I did so many things behind their backs that I couldnt keep track and I became a mess
During winter break my family went to california and I stayed at my grandmas, but I pretended that my Family was coming home that day so they took me home. so I had the whole night to myself and I had Richard come over……….
And I lost my virginity…
I skipped more school and I missed so much that my parents were gonna have to go to court…
I got in so much trouble because they trusted me and thought that I would never do such a thing…
They found out that I lost my virginity to Richard..
They flipped out!
And took away my cellphone
They also found out through my cousin that is 17 years old who just had a baby that I went and got on birthcontrol
She totally rated me out…
Things were so tough then and no one in my family would speak to me…
My step mom would call me **** and prostitute
I couldnt leave my room if she was out of hers…
One day she hit me
So i ran away…
My dad found out that my step mom was cheating…
but he didnt believe it
I came home a couple days later
And she was being nice to me agian
Everthing was going good and I got my cell back
They started letting me out and going to my friends
But they surely didnt want me to be with Richard anymore
But I didnt really go to my friends…
I was with richard and i would go to his house to be with his family
Guess what… my cousin rated me out again
So a few days ago they found out and my dad was begging me to stop..
At this point I look back and i feel so stupid for letting it get this far! I feel so guilty for sure and I dont even feel like being with Richard anymore… I just want things to get back to normal. Im willing to commit to stop sneaking around and focus on my family now. But does this mean I should break up with Richard? What are some tips for me to getting back to the way things were? I know its not gonna got back right away, its gonna take a while and it may never go back completely… I understand that butIi just want to know what I can do to make things better.. Please dont judge, just help. I would really appreciate it.
Alfonzo Cutliff
Drugs are so easy to dip back into if you have EVER had problems . When they say that they are clean once and for all, how do you know they aren’t lying?
Deshawn Shattles
I am very lonely. My dad died when I was very young, my mother is very cold and mean, she gives me little attention or love since I was very young. My two sisters live far away and we have not the closest of relationships.
I have a hard time making friends that truly love me. I feel so alone. I do not trust people that much because my own mother and family members have mistreated me a lot. What can I do because I am really really sad.
Leon Pehl
i’ve learned over the years that people will let you down and i understand that. but what if all of your friends and family are betraying you? all of my friends have lied to me spread rumors about me and betrayed me. being the nice person i am never confronted them or anything. i still trust these people but its hard when everyday i hear something new. how am i supposed to have a healthy relationship with anybody when everyone is just proving to me that i can’t trust anybody?
Violet Casteneda
When the hard time comes around , nobody is your friend and family. Where is the humanity in this? and please don t tell me that “this is how life is”. Why do we even live if we are so selfish and want everything for ourself and none for others. What is this world
Tamica Digian
One thing that someone could do to lose your trust. What could be done that is so terrible to get to the point of no return?
For me? I just found out that my cousin and ex best friend slept with my ex husband. But their defense is, that it happened after he and I split up.. Does anyone agree with me that friends and family should never cross that line of sleeping with each others ex’s?
Vern Cerulli
By commitment/trust issues, I mean mainly myself. I have a hard time getting close to people and when things are good, they’re good. For some reason though, I just can’t help but mess the situation up as time goes on. Friends, family, boyfriends, just can’t get it fully together. Could it be past emotional damages that keep me from being a genuine, honest, trustworthy person, or is it just me?
Jacquline Florencio