Archive for the ‘Family’ Category
Riko asked:
What should I do?
It’s because that when I tell them how I feel or criticize them… guess what? I get screamed at and brushed off by them. They would say things such as, “You ungrateful little brat, we raised you and this is how you repay us!”/”Why don’t you find another family to go to if you say that!?”. I think you get the idea now.
I know what you’re thinking, I understand that they buy me things, raised me, give me advice, and teach me about life, but, however, they don’t care about how I feel. The truth is that I don’t really care much at all that they buy me so much things or give me money. All I just wanted them to do was listen and hear me out. That’s why I’m not that close with my family. Trust me, I have tried to get them to understand, but I gave up a long time ago. I really do want to open up to them, but they don’t want to hear me out or cooperate with me. I’m not done yet.
They try to get me to open up to them, but at the same time they EXPECT me to come to to them. When they try to do that, they always ask me impatiently such as “Well”/”Are you going to say something?”. That just proves that they want to rush everything. I thought that getting someone to open up to you takes your time and patience.
When I have my own interests that are different from theirs, I get mocked and ridiculed. For example, I was watching the anime called “Fruits Basket” and one day my brother only saw a few clips and shortly he told me, “Quit watching that *** show!”. He didn’t even give it a chance.
They’re always wondering why I’m the quiet one and I turned out different from them. My brother informed me that the family always talks about how did I become just about completely different from them. Why would I want to become like them? They’re self-righteous, hypocritical, impatient, and pushy. I know I have a lot to say and I’m not done yet.
They think that just because I’m the youngest, they label me as immature and don’t know much.
At school, even my teachers and closest friends know me better than my family. The teachers even often mistake me for being a junior(11th grade) or senior(12th grade). I’m just still barely a sophmore in high school. Even though, they don’t say it, they reactions proved how surprised they were when each time they asked me what grade level I was in. They tell me I’m really mature for my age, despite that I still kept my innocence from childhood.
I just wanted someone to hear me out, even just once is enough. They don’t have to agree with me if they don’t want to. All I just wanted was to be heard out, even just a little bit is great. That’s basically all I wanted to say.
I forgot to add that they are extremely overbearing and overprotective. I was going to a friend’s house and stayed there from 1:00 PM-7:00PM. They kept checking in every few hours and they demanded me to come home and they screamed, “If you want to stay there, then don’t come home!”. Then I had to leave and go home. They can’t even trust me to go over to a friend’s house. I’m a moral child that would never do something so bad at a friend’s house.
All my life, I’ve felt like I was never really welcomed into my family. It felt like living in a cage. I know that I under their house and have to follow their rules. But it feels so restricting.
They expect me to do things right on the first try. For example, just because I accidentally put too much water in the rice, it turned out all soggy, my brother didn’t even give me a second chance. They scream as if it was me getting into trouble with the law, if I made any mistakes.
If they made any mistakes I take it patiently and hear them out and give them another chance.
To Sandy B, you’ve got a really great idea, but even then if I told them, I’d still get screamed at.
Edgardo Hampon
What should I do?
It’s because that when I tell them how I feel or criticize them… guess what? I get screamed at and brushed off by them. They would say things such as, “You ungrateful little brat, we raised you and this is how you repay us!”/”Why don’t you find another family to go to if you say that!?”. I think you get the idea now.
I know what you’re thinking, I understand that they buy me things, raised me, give me advice, and teach me about life, but, however, they don’t care about how I feel. The truth is that I don’t really care much at all that they buy me so much things or give me money. All I just wanted them to do was listen and hear me out. That’s why I’m not that close with my family. Trust me, I have tried to get them to understand, but I gave up a long time ago. I really do want to open up to them, but they don’t want to hear me out or cooperate with me. I’m not done yet.
They try to get me to open up to them, but at the same time they EXPECT me to come to to them. When they try to do that, they always ask me impatiently such as “Well”/”Are you going to say something?”. That just proves that they want to rush everything. I thought that getting someone to open up to you takes your time and patience.
When I have my own interests that are different from theirs, I get mocked and ridiculed. For example, I was watching the anime called “Fruits Basket” and one day my brother only saw a few clips and shortly he told me, “Quit watching that *** show!”. He didn’t even give it a chance.
They’re always wondering why I’m the quiet one and I turned out different from them. My brother informed me that the family always talks about how did I become just about completely different from them. Why would I want to become like them? They’re self-righteous, hypocritical, impatient, and pushy. I know I have a lot to say and I’m not done yet.
They think that just because I’m the youngest, they label me as immature and don’t know much.
At school, even my teachers and closest friends know me better than my family. The teachers even often mistake me for being a junior(11th grade) or senior(12th grade). I’m just still barely a sophmore in high school. Even though, they don’t say it, they reactions proved how surprised they were when each time they asked me what grade level I was in. They tell me I’m really mature for my age, despite that I still kept my innocence from childhood.
I just wanted someone to hear me out, even just once is enough. They don’t have to agree with me if they don’t want to. All I just wanted was to be heard out, even just a little bit is great. That’s basically all I wanted to say.
I forgot to add that they are extremely overbearing and overprotective. I was going to a friend’s house and stayed there from 1:00 PM-7:00PM. They kept checking in every few hours and they demanded me to come home and they screamed, “If you want to stay there, then don’t come home!”. Then I had to leave and go home. They can’t even trust me to go over to a friend’s house. I’m a moral child that would never do something so bad at a friend’s house.
All my life, I’ve felt like I was never really welcomed into my family. It felt like living in a cage. I know that I under their house and have to follow their rules. But it feels so restricting.
They expect me to do things right on the first try. For example, just because I accidentally put too much water in the rice, it turned out all soggy, my brother didn’t even give me a second chance. They scream as if it was me getting into trouble with the law, if I made any mistakes.
If they made any mistakes I take it patiently and hear them out and give them another chance.
To Sandy B, you’ve got a really great idea, but even then if I told them, I’d still get screamed at.
Edgardo Hampon
Krystle asked:
My fiance is in the middle of a very long and drawn out divorce. His father died a couple of months ago and left a hefty amount of money to him and his 2 children, with dad as the trustee of the accounts.
Is it legal ttp have the children’s trust buy the home they are living in, to have mom live there with the kids? Dad doesn’t want the house, but Mom can’t afford to pay the mortgage. Would she have to pay rent back to the trust accounts?
Any help or opinions here would be greatly appreciated, thanks!
Kimberlie Renneker
My fiance is in the middle of a very long and drawn out divorce. His father died a couple of months ago and left a hefty amount of money to him and his 2 children, with dad as the trustee of the accounts.
Is it legal ttp have the children’s trust buy the home they are living in, to have mom live there with the kids? Dad doesn’t want the house, but Mom can’t afford to pay the mortgage. Would she have to pay rent back to the trust accounts?
Any help or opinions here would be greatly appreciated, thanks!
Kimberlie Renneker
* asked:
Dad used to say: as we were growin up:
You will go hungry on the streets, and I will laugh…Everybody hates you children, and your mother is a cancer to society and she is like a snake….He said we were all bad and should have been thrown out of the house including his wife who slaved over him and dedicated herself to him 40 years of marriage, and She held the marriage while he gambled and gambled.
He pressured her to get divorce but Mom never granted it, because she didn’t want to lose anything.
He would say UNTRUTHFUL BAD things to us family members and try to make us **** each other, and he would say anything to strangers about us as a family that were NOT true.
To this day, I absolutely **** going to dad’s grave, as I feel he is not at rest and he was evil to us as a family.
He left us broke breaking the Family Trust account and gambled it all, and left us with over $30,000 in household damages he failed to repair. He purposely wanted to see us on the streets.
MY QUESTION WAS HE A SICK MAN, OR JUST PLAIN EVIL MAN?
Justwondering, you hit the nail on the head about insanity.
Micah Gucciardi
Dad used to say: as we were growin up:
You will go hungry on the streets, and I will laugh…Everybody hates you children, and your mother is a cancer to society and she is like a snake….He said we were all bad and should have been thrown out of the house including his wife who slaved over him and dedicated herself to him 40 years of marriage, and She held the marriage while he gambled and gambled.
He pressured her to get divorce but Mom never granted it, because she didn’t want to lose anything.
He would say UNTRUTHFUL BAD things to us family members and try to make us **** each other, and he would say anything to strangers about us as a family that were NOT true.
To this day, I absolutely **** going to dad’s grave, as I feel he is not at rest and he was evil to us as a family.
He left us broke breaking the Family Trust account and gambled it all, and left us with over $30,000 in household damages he failed to repair. He purposely wanted to see us on the streets.
MY QUESTION WAS HE A SICK MAN, OR JUST PLAIN EVIL MAN?
Justwondering, you hit the nail on the head about insanity.
Micah Gucciardi
chitown_balla74 asked:
a incident happened lateley and ive been lying for about a week. yesterday i told my mother the truth about it. it’s the truth but because i lied in the first place, she doesnt believe me now. this lie caused her stress and caused her to argue with other family members and now i wish i would have came clean in the first place, but how can i earn back her trust and move foward and forget about this?
Guy Connet
a incident happened lateley and ive been lying for about a week. yesterday i told my mother the truth about it. it’s the truth but because i lied in the first place, she doesnt believe me now. this lie caused her stress and caused her to argue with other family members and now i wish i would have came clean in the first place, but how can i earn back her trust and move foward and forget about this?
Guy Connet
Jay C asked:
My family cosists of me 25 my wife cayla 21 my son orion 19 and my wifes brother chris who is 13 and lives with us because his mom is an a pych ward and his dad is living o the street somewhere in memphis and his grandma who had custody of him almost all his live is deceased he dont have no other place to go we barely can do this we dont have no help no family no friends no anything i see all these other people getting all this assistance getting there rent payed for getting there food payed for ssi disability hud this and that i get 200 dollars in food stamps a month fot my family of four I make 200- 260 a week and the food stams is all the assistance i get and it dont even last th month my rents 275 plus i have to pay my utilities we dont have no car i walk 5 miles to work everyday because we cant afford one but for some reason we dont qualify for hud or housing asssistance or any medical insurance or even free or discounted datcare so my wife can actually work without giving her whole check but 40 or 50 bucks to day care I cant find a better job i continue lookig real hard im a roofer thats what ive always done but this god forsaken town that i live in where they hire all cheap illegall aliens and then ***** you over when you do get a job because it dont make scense for them to pay more when they dont have to has forced me to find what i guess you could call more stable work im a good person my wife is to im a real hard worker and weve been just holding on and waiting for some kinda of door to open so that we dont have to live in this day to day battle i dont want much i just want my wife and i to be able to wash our clothes without carrying 3 large baskets 3-4 miles each way every weekend and little things like that heeeeeeeeeellllllllpppp does anybody know of anything
Travis Macewen
My family cosists of me 25 my wife cayla 21 my son orion 19 and my wifes brother chris who is 13 and lives with us because his mom is an a pych ward and his dad is living o the street somewhere in memphis and his grandma who had custody of him almost all his live is deceased he dont have no other place to go we barely can do this we dont have no help no family no friends no anything i see all these other people getting all this assistance getting there rent payed for getting there food payed for ssi disability hud this and that i get 200 dollars in food stamps a month fot my family of four I make 200- 260 a week and the food stams is all the assistance i get and it dont even last th month my rents 275 plus i have to pay my utilities we dont have no car i walk 5 miles to work everyday because we cant afford one but for some reason we dont qualify for hud or housing asssistance or any medical insurance or even free or discounted datcare so my wife can actually work without giving her whole check but 40 or 50 bucks to day care I cant find a better job i continue lookig real hard im a roofer thats what ive always done but this god forsaken town that i live in where they hire all cheap illegall aliens and then ***** you over when you do get a job because it dont make scense for them to pay more when they dont have to has forced me to find what i guess you could call more stable work im a good person my wife is to im a real hard worker and weve been just holding on and waiting for some kinda of door to open so that we dont have to live in this day to day battle i dont want much i just want my wife and i to be able to wash our clothes without carrying 3 large baskets 3-4 miles each way every weekend and little things like that heeeeeeeeeellllllllpppp does anybody know of anything
Travis Macewen
Emmy Lee asked:
I have a few problems, and I need a shoulder to cry on, so to speak. I have no one I can talk to anymore. I trust random strangers on Yahoo more than my own family & friends. What does that say?
I have a few problems, and I need a shoulder to cry on, so to speak. I have no one I can talk to anymore. I trust random strangers on Yahoo more than my own family & friends. What does that say?
I don’t really need advice, but it would help, so please post an answer so I can message with you.
Thanks a ton.
M
Nickole Mckinzey
KHill asked:
When someone in your family that you trusted went and got credit in your name and messed up your credit by charging up stuff and then not paying the debt, how do you not be eaten up by bitterness and anger. I do not want to resort to filing charges but it looks like I will have to.
Graham Pritzker
When someone in your family that you trusted went and got credit in your name and messed up your credit by charging up stuff and then not paying the debt, how do you not be eaten up by bitterness and anger. I do not want to resort to filing charges but it looks like I will have to.
Graham Pritzker
smackshacks asked:
because someone has been stealing money from my parents lately and because I’ve been in trouble quite a bit in the past, I get blamed immediately for it. I mean I don’t blame my parents for not trusting me I did it to myself, but I feel awful when they think I’m stealing their money because no one believes me when I tell them I didn’t do it. My sister is only 12 and she’s a really good kid so I know she had no part, I’m just clueless this is happening way too regularly and it’s frustrating.
because someone has been stealing money from my parents lately and because I’ve been in trouble quite a bit in the past, I get blamed immediately for it. I mean I don’t blame my parents for not trusting me I did it to myself, but I feel awful when they think I’m stealing their money because no one believes me when I tell them I didn’t do it. My sister is only 12 and she’s a really good kid so I know she had no part, I’m just clueless this is happening way too regularly and it’s frustrating.
Any help?
Once again, I wasn’t the one who took it… otherwise I wouldn’t be upset with their accusations.
Nickie Petricka
Anderson asked:
I’m 18, and all my life I’ve had trust issues with my family. I really can’t trust my family one bit because of how deceitful, corrupted, and twisted they all are. It’s constant drama and fighting with my family, and I don’t feel as I can trust them, and come to them for support. I am VERY unhappy, very very lonely, and stuck. I don’t know what to do with my life or where to go. I am at community college now, and **** it for the reasons that I am stuck at home, and that the college is terrible. I simply can’t run away so fast because of my feet issues and will be needing surgery. They say family is the core of one’s happiness. I agree, which the is the problem. I agree, but don’t have that core in my life. Where do you go? What do you do when you have no one to go to and your family isn’t trustworthy? How do you move on with your life? It’s stuck on me, and I feel where ever I go I will remain unhappy.
Valda Laurie
I’m 18, and all my life I’ve had trust issues with my family. I really can’t trust my family one bit because of how deceitful, corrupted, and twisted they all are. It’s constant drama and fighting with my family, and I don’t feel as I can trust them, and come to them for support. I am VERY unhappy, very very lonely, and stuck. I don’t know what to do with my life or where to go. I am at community college now, and **** it for the reasons that I am stuck at home, and that the college is terrible. I simply can’t run away so fast because of my feet issues and will be needing surgery. They say family is the core of one’s happiness. I agree, which the is the problem. I agree, but don’t have that core in my life. Where do you go? What do you do when you have no one to go to and your family isn’t trustworthy? How do you move on with your life? It’s stuck on me, and I feel where ever I go I will remain unhappy.
Valda Laurie
trudycuffe asked:
About ten years ago horrible circumstances happened in my life. My brother left on a plane to Iowa and have not heard from him since, I love him and need to tell him that. Also about the same time I had both of my children taken by SOCIAL SERVICES. I can prove then and now I am a good mother. My life has been so lonely I can;t let go of my children. I don’t know which web site can help me without taking my money. Bad things do happen to good people. I believe GOD will help me find a way, maybe some one out there can help me.
Charlie Seifert
About ten years ago horrible circumstances happened in my life. My brother left on a plane to Iowa and have not heard from him since, I love him and need to tell him that. Also about the same time I had both of my children taken by SOCIAL SERVICES. I can prove then and now I am a good mother. My life has been so lonely I can;t let go of my children. I don’t know which web site can help me without taking my money. Bad things do happen to good people. I believe GOD will help me find a way, maybe some one out there can help me.
Charlie Seifert