Archive for July, 2010
Not quite a year ago, I lied to my mate. It was what I thought was a meaningless lie. I had hoped he had gotten me pregnant, we had discussed this before. I bought a test and the first one was negative. I saved the second in my car to take later. He later asked me if I thought I was pregnant. I told him I wasn’t sure. He asked if I had testeed, and for some reason I said no. He later found the second test, and his impression was that I thought I was pregnant and was hiding it from him. His conclusion was if I was hiding this and lying then it must be because I was sleeping around.
In all honesty, it was a nonsensical lie, and I have never thought of cheating on him.
Time has passed, and I thought we had gotten over it, but he was using my phone and saw a number he did not recognize. I explained that it was an old coworker of mine, who did not have a phone and that number was her fiance’s number.
All the past came back and he is paranoid that I am sleeping around on him. For true feedback- I am not cheating. I want to spend the rest of my life with this guy. I offered to call the number or give him the info, and he said I guess we jst have trust issues. I asked how I can help fix things and he said to just give it time.
Is this really the only solution? And does time really help mend this sort of thing? If there is something I can do to ease his worries, I would do them…
We have a four year old and am terrified that the lack of trust will ultimately be our undoing… I want to save my family.
Any advise?
To clarify, he asked me if I had taken any test and I lied and said no, when in fact I had. I guess in my delusional thinking, I had some thought that if I waited, I might be pregnant and then could surprise him with the exciting news, but my secret really hurt him. And it wasn’t him being over suspicious. It was my shady behavior. I don’t know why it came out of my mouth.
There was also an incident when we first were dating, he asked me if I had been checking on my ex (online) I told him no because I didn’t want him to think I was still “hanging on” but he was over one night and saw on my computer that I was in fact reading my ex’s myspace and he was upset that I didn’t tell him the truth. I think I have always had abandonment issues, and tried to tell him what I thought he wanted to hear. I have been focusing on my reactions and responses and have not lied to him again. I have tried to be very open. The number has been on my phone for years, he just happened to see it and is upset.
Kristi Labonte
my family ignore me, my so called friends just back stab me.
&& well I just feel alone and there’s no one to speak to.
I try making new friends, but they all seeem to **** me, and just use me.
what do i do?
Carol
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dad (37): http://www.barnesconcertband.org.uk/images/davidsmith.jpg
daughter (16): http://www.istockphoto.com/file_thumbview_approve/4244821/2/istockphoto_4244821-smiling-brunette-teen-girl-sitting-next-to-water.jpg
son (13): http://girlfriendology.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2008/08/ian-reviewer-of-the-dangerous-days-of-daniel-x1.jpg
daughter (7): http://www.istockphoto.com/file_thumbview_approve/5792999/2/istockphoto_5792999-elementary-school-girl.jpg
its really fun, thanks
Stefanie
I do not have a will but know of a type of trust that can be used to avoid probate. What is the name of it and where can I find a source on the internet that will provide this type of document for me (free of course!). Also, I live in Texas so their laws will apply. My family lives in Michigan.
Bernie Shempert
So I have a problem trusting people. For the most part I don’t believe anything anyone says. I feel like they have some sort of hidden agenda and that they aren’t being genuine. This is causing me a problem because it’s making me seriously anti-social. I don’t really like talking to others unless its my immediate family. I feel I don’t know what to say, what to believe or how to feel. It’s sorta like being on pins and needles all the time. How do you think I can learn to trust and get my social life back?
Colton Brancati
As beneficiaries of an annuity listed under a family trust, is this money taxable by the IRS. If so, is it taxable to the decedent’s tax or the beneficiaries taxes? Is just the money earned from the annuity taxable or is the whole amount of the annuity taxable?
Fausto Swift
My father is dying and doesn’t want to have his properties probated, yet he never set up a trust or quit claimed the properties to us children. I have durable power of attorney. Can I quit claim the house and land to me and my siblings, legally? This is my father’s wish, so we’re not doing anything he wouldn’t want. Or could I set up a family trust as his POA?
Thanks for the help!
Josiah Padget
Does your work offer a free counseling line for any problems like stress, family, depression…whatever? Do you like it or trust it? It says like any other counseling, by law like police or whatever can get your info but no one else.
Jeromy Vanliere
Do you really think you can really trust in anyone any more. It seems everyone is out for there own gain in this world. It’s like every man for him self. Truly can you trust even your family?
I don’t think I can trust anymore.
What do you honestly think? This is not to see who has the best answer just your TRUE honest feelings. Thank you for your time.
Tiffanie Lamoree
Florida.Title search says, quote:”Jane Smith and Donald Jones” co-trustees of the so and so trust dated 1/2/1996 and {my name } as their interest may appear “unquote. The reason for this is at one time these two,my sister and brother, were at one time the co- successor trustees, of the family irrevocable trust.They squandered all the money on fees and expenses.The grantor became angry and illegally signed over one of the properties to me [another son] The two co-successer trustees resigned after they spent all the money and sold all the other assets.They did not realize when the judge set aside the sale of this particular property, they were the still the owners,but not me,though my name is on the deed recorded at the courthouse.So,after seven years went by,my name was added to the title search as listed above, through adverse possession with title[Attornies use another term also,I don’t know what it is. .My question is : are they considered a single entity that would make their ownership together 50% and mine 50% or is it thirdsees all the way. {Excluding property improvements at my expense ?
Sydney Kemple