Archive for April, 2009
well im 15 and my family know’s this family, we’re very close, almost as close as we are to our normal relatives. Well one day we decided to go to a holiday resort together. Our family friend’s daughter is my friend. She is about my age. One night we all went to sleep, all the kids in one room [me, my friend, my brother, my sister]. My friend is very close to her dad aka she’s a daddy’s girl anyway she’s used to him patting her to sleep [normaly on the foot] and so he did that to me as well so that i’d go to sleep. He patted both of us but after 30 minutes he was only patting me, after awhile instead of just patting my foot he went a bit higher up my foot, and he went up to my thighs and started to feel them, he thought i was asleep, his wife came in and he quickly slipped his arm out from my thighs and said he was only putting us to sleep. I think he was a little bit drunk as well, he had drunk some beer with my dad earlier. Normally he is very nice but now im scared, what do i do?
Normally my friend’s dad is SO nice, he helps me with some of my homework, he’s very nice. It was only that one night he did that. Im scared coz now everytime he touches me just to pat me on the back or something i get so freaked out, i dont want to tell my parents either because our family is like SO effing close to their family and we’ve always been here for eachother, wouldnt want to break that up.
It was only once but im still VERY scared, now days when i go over, he pats me on the foot when me and my friend go to sleep, he doesn’t feel me, but im STILL SCARED. Do you think i should just let it be a one timer? i dont think he’ll ever do it again but im still scared. I need advice !
i want mainly girls opinions on this since im a girl and they would understand more than guys. If your a guy who’s just gonna say shit, dont even bother but if your conisderate then thanks.
i WAS awake but i think that your right about him being in his own world [if that makes sense], like he didnt notice that he might be caught, i SWEAR if he did go any furthur i wouldve brought him back to reality by saying ‘what the hell are you doing? Dont you realise that im still awake?
It’s been over a year and he hasnt done anything of the sort, but then again, i can never be to sure. I still feel weird even if he gives me a friendly pat on the shoulder.
Thanks so much for your replies =]
but dont you think that it is a possibility that it was the beer that made him like this?
because he is a lawyer and once in the car with me, my friend and her bro. He was telling us that molesters are DISGUSTING, dont trust people like that.
i have a feeling that the alcohol influenced him because normally he gives us advice and is very nice.
Don’t you think he might’ve been influenced by alcohol?
by the way, i was trying to make him realise that i was awake by coughing and sneezing and moving around but he didnt notice, i really think it was the alcohol that influenced him?
i dont know, im just confused right now =S
i also told him that i never fall asleep if someone pats me
and he said……ok then
but he might forget what i told him
i dont want to tell my friend either coz it might offend her or it might change her relationship with her father, she is a bit closer to her father than her mother, sorry about putting up so many details people and i really thank all of you for your answers =]
lol
hey ‘joy55js’
the mum was only checking on the dad coz she was waiting for him to come to sleep
and no he isnt molestering his daughter, you can tell that he is a very good man.
I highly think it was becuase of the alcohol.
thanx for your answers everyone.
Reed Patria
Interested in creating a ‘family trust’ that can be used to benefit subsequent generations in a dynastic fashion
Kenny Rudoy
being raised by grandparents and being sheltered has me brother. I don’t have them to run to no more. Me and my mom don’t get alone really never have. She stolen from me( check fraud) lied to me ( about father) and used me for her personal gain. i don’t know my dad. My son father was the one i really trusted but he proved me wrong when he cheated 3 time. 2 of them had babies. no brothers or sisters, my mom side of the family is older. no auntie or uncles just great aunts and uncles. the one friend i tough i had turn her back on me because i told her her mind should be on raising her 3 kids nu-thing else. My guy friend has cheated as well which a baby has come of that as well, I must be stupid, not interesting or something. I starting to think that something is wrong with me. family, friends and the one that say they care for me don’t show it. I go alone with a lt cause damn everyone wants some one to learn on or talk to or maybe chill with. most of all trust even if a little bit.
Tommie Kapetanos
Can my mom and her boy friend live together and still not have the state view it as a common law marriage.?
This isn’t about $$$ but about lack of trust. My side doesn’t trust his family in any matter. Money, relationships, parenting skills. Anything. Can they just live as landlord and renter? House bought in ’92 200K stilled owed 100K. Today’s value 500K. Age in the 70′s and 80′s
Nichole Fogerty
and ill do any job i live in snellville ga any plz sugest or reqest any thing!
Sylvia
like you’ve been raped, assaulted, teased/ridiculed by others/not accepted for years, had money problems, emotionally abusive parents, etc. how can you get over this pain in your life to love again and trust again, when your family/boyfriends have abused you and let you down? you feel its all about you surviving, and taking care of you, because you had no one else.
Ezra Derian
My mother in law tells me that my sister in law lies. And I have always had a gut feeling that my mother in law, sister in law, or Aunt in law are not always upfront about things… Is this unusual, that people suspect people in the family are dishonest to them and hide a lot of secrets?
Gregory Guice
There are only a few things I don’t do around the house and according to my mom, I’d be perfect if I did. The only problem is once I take on some responsibility, they expect me to take even more. I **** it. The only time I get to leave the house is to my friend’s every Friday but often things come up and I have to prolong seeing her for another few weeks. My brother says I have to earn the family’s “trust” if I want more freedom, but what more can I do! I’m an A-B student, never gotten into serious or minor trouble at school, I keep my own room clean(but if I dare to forget to make the bed my mom will scream at me about it), and people say I’m very mature for my age. But no matter what I do, I still wouldn’t be able to go to a school dance/homecoming/prom with my friends because it’s a “dating” thing according to my brother, I still can’t wear anything even slightly tight or above my ankle/sleevless, and of course can never talk to guys. Should I bother or keep my distance and just….
go off to college, having to abandon my family just to be able to live my own life. They’re not bad people but they will NEVER understand life outside the cultural norms.
I’m so miserable at home and I have no one to talk to. I like school a lot because it’s the only social, sane environment where the rules are rational and I don’t have to fake who I am. But I still have a few more summers to go.
It takes YEARS to earn their trust and even then I’ll barely get much out of it. I don’t want to wait until I’m 17 just to be allowed to go out places with my friend(my mom thinks I’m just at her house all day).
Yup, bengali Muslim. (Bangladesh, for anyone that doesn’t know was a part of eastern Pakistan but we broke apart from it because we wanted to keep speaking bengali instead of urdu so yea, now we’re this little country to the right of India).
My mom I can’t blame for being cultural, we’re foreigners here. To her I already have enough freedom cause she struggled through her life. But my brother has gained such a closed mind since he became religious. I do rebel against praying, I consider myself Agnostic/Atheist now. There was this thing I did when I was 12, and to today I still can’t use certain internet functions for that. But that was over 2 years ago and I didn’t know any better.
Suzy Granato
you now with parents and family you want them to trust you and believe in you when you are trying to tell them something important
well i told them something which was true and they didn’t believe me. they mocked me for it saying that i lie through my teeth 
now i always tell the truth but this was the one time i needed them to believe the most. however they still chose not to. then when they found out that i was telling the truth my dad said sorry for the way he acted but the rest of my family still chose not to believe me even tho i have been found that i was telling the truth. i have no one in my family apart from my dad ( who is always at work) to talk to about it because he is the only one who i can trust out of everyone in the world but my mum is trying so hard not to believe me (it is a family situation of which i have said something about someone in my family doing stuff to me and making me do stuff for them, for at least 10 years)
i mean as in i have been forced into stuff by one of my uncles
Marcelo Vandis
Ive tried slowly to trust people and sometimes I have gotten majorly burned in the crucial moments of opening up. How do I teach my brain to trust when I dont have a base to fall back on and say well at least I had my family to trust?
Beau Bugler