Archive for January, 2009
Roberta Groche asked:
There is no problem in this world that has no solution. The solution may not come in search of you. You have to work for it. Problems in marriage are also mostly like that, they may fester and kill a marriage, but proper nursing can heal the wound admirably.
Marriages are made in Heaven, it is said. But realities of life come in the way to send it hell bound. In some cases, the partners talk it out and solve their little misunderstandings. But in serious cases, a marriage family counselor may be the only savior. In most cases, they succeed to tie the frayed yarns together.
Marriage is a continuous journey. Nurturing it is a full time job. We respect couples who have lived together for many years, but many of us fail to emulate them. What are the reasons for this? The mostly quoted reasons are infidelity, lack of communication and understanding, distance between the partners, neglect, abuse, broken trust or simply boredom.
Sometimes things simply get out of hand and the partners decide to part. But I would like to advise you that there is professional help available. Professional marriage family counselors can actually stop divorce, even if the couple is in the brink of it. However, for a variety of reasons, it has been found that many people are reluctant to approach them.
I told you that marriage is a long journey together. As in the case of any other field, there are special tools to work on it. Books written by renowned marriage family counselors can be eye openers to people who are in the blind alley. Some counselors run e-mail services into which you can sign in. In this technology driven age, there are CDs and such material on the subject for you to refer.
A successful route towards saving marriage is attending marriage fitness camps, which, in recent years, have saved many marriages from breaking up. These televised camps offer one-on-one phone sessions, question and answer conferences, live seminars and make the couple do homework assignments. People who join in are given audio leaning systems, marriage fitness workbook and journals. The timeframe is set for the couple to work out a solution.
The charges levied for these stop divorce camps are negligible when compared to the blissful marriage experience you may gain from the camp. The homework assignments that the counselor gives the troubled couple help the partners come closer, because they have to complete the assignment together. It may actually be fun too.
The marriage fitness Tele-boot camp is the most convenient way to fight estrangement. The material would be delivered at your doorstep. You can talk to the counselor at a convenient time of yours. It is the best choice if one of the partners is unwilling to get counseling along with the other one.
Una Guilmain
There is no problem in this world that has no solution. The solution may not come in search of you. You have to work for it. Problems in marriage are also mostly like that, they may fester and kill a marriage, but proper nursing can heal the wound admirably.
Marriages are made in Heaven, it is said. But realities of life come in the way to send it hell bound. In some cases, the partners talk it out and solve their little misunderstandings. But in serious cases, a marriage family counselor may be the only savior. In most cases, they succeed to tie the frayed yarns together.
Marriage is a continuous journey. Nurturing it is a full time job. We respect couples who have lived together for many years, but many of us fail to emulate them. What are the reasons for this? The mostly quoted reasons are infidelity, lack of communication and understanding, distance between the partners, neglect, abuse, broken trust or simply boredom.
Sometimes things simply get out of hand and the partners decide to part. But I would like to advise you that there is professional help available. Professional marriage family counselors can actually stop divorce, even if the couple is in the brink of it. However, for a variety of reasons, it has been found that many people are reluctant to approach them.
I told you that marriage is a long journey together. As in the case of any other field, there are special tools to work on it. Books written by renowned marriage family counselors can be eye openers to people who are in the blind alley. Some counselors run e-mail services into which you can sign in. In this technology driven age, there are CDs and such material on the subject for you to refer.
A successful route towards saving marriage is attending marriage fitness camps, which, in recent years, have saved many marriages from breaking up. These televised camps offer one-on-one phone sessions, question and answer conferences, live seminars and make the couple do homework assignments. People who join in are given audio leaning systems, marriage fitness workbook and journals. The timeframe is set for the couple to work out a solution.
The charges levied for these stop divorce camps are negligible when compared to the blissful marriage experience you may gain from the camp. The homework assignments that the counselor gives the troubled couple help the partners come closer, because they have to complete the assignment together. It may actually be fun too.
The marriage fitness Tele-boot camp is the most convenient way to fight estrangement. The material would be delivered at your doorstep. You can talk to the counselor at a convenient time of yours. It is the best choice if one of the partners is unwilling to get counseling along with the other one.
Una Guilmain
Samson Omotosho, PhD, APRN/PMHN asked:
Abuse & Violence in the Family
(Dr. Samson Omotosho, PhD, APRN/PMHN)
Introduction: Abuse and violence in the family refer to physically and emotionally harmful behaviors that occur between family and household members. It includes child abuse, child neglect, intimate partners abuse and violence, marital rape, and elder abuse. It could be a learned behavior that can be unlearned through therapy. Perpetrators try to isolate the family to keep it secret and avoid sanctions. They usually have some power and control over the other members of the family. They may rationalize the violence with their drug use. The use of cocaine, PCP, amphetamine etc may increase violent behavior.
Forms of Abuse: Physical abuse includes hitting, punching, shoving, stabbing, shooting, kicking, and withholding medication, wheelchair, food, and fluids. Sexual abuse includes coercion, marital rape, and withholding ***. Psychological abuse includes threat, harassment, and blackmail. Emotional abuse includes name-calling, insults, and ridicule. Economic abuse includes total control over finance, running up bills, forbidding school or work.
Myths and Reality About Violence: Family violence occurs at all levels of society. Separation or divorce may not end violence. Abuser does not need to be provoked. Some survivors wrongly tend to blame self. Treat the violence but also the alcohol, drug, stress, and mental health problems if any. Violence occurs between gays and ******** too. Abused women are discouraged from disclosure by threats, fear, denial and disbelief expressed by ‘confidants’.
Models of Intervention: The Paternalistic model assumes that the clinician has more knowledge than the patient; that the survivor is responsible for ending the violence; that the clinician should give advice and sympathy; and see the patient as a victim. Whereas, the Empowerment model, which is better, assumes that the clinician should mutually share knowledge with the patient, plan strategies with the patient, respect patient’s competence, experience and strengths, and see the patient as survivor.
Response of Survivors to Violence: Physical signs include injuries at multiple sites in various stages of healing (head, neck, face, throat, sexual organs), headache, insomnia, and stress. Behavioral sign is that the individual does not leave the abuser or leaves and returns before making a final break. Psychological signs include delayed reaction, depression, lowered self esteem, attributions e.g. self-blame, impaired school or work performance and conduct, poor concentration and poor problem solving.
Why Individual Does Not Leave the Abuser? Abused individuals do not leave the abuser for any of many reasons, which include fear of being stalked and killed (which is a realistic fear), strong emotional attachment to the abuser, determination to end the abuse, sanctions present in the couple’s culture, fear of stigma, lack of resources to live away from the abuser, and consideration of what will happen to her children if she leaves. She may leave and return, thinking, “Maybe he will change”.
Child Abuse & Neglect: In every state, child abuse and neglect are must be reported. Types of abuse include child sexual abuse, child physical abuse, child emotional abuse, and child neglect. Child that witnesses family violence may also suffer abuse.
Child Sexual Abuse: This is the involvement of children in sexual activities that they do not fully comprehend and to which they do not or cannot freely give consent. This violates child’s trust in the adult that is supposed to protect him/her. Threat to the child, pet, and others keeps the child quiet. It results in confusion, shame, and helplessness. Its effect may last a lifetime and affect mental health. It may be guarded as a family secret.
Observable Signs of Sexual Abuse: The observable signs of child sexual abuse include physical aggression, excessive masturbation, social withdrawal, low self esteem, impaired school performance, sleep disturbance, STD’s, bleeding, soreness, itching, UTI, pregnancy, bruises, swelling, redness, fracture, burns, and unkempt appearance.
School Violence: School violence is usually due to child drug use, child’s access to guns, antisocial and impulsive behaviors, family dysfunction, community unresponsiveness, interpersonal disputes, and bullying and harassment by peers.
Child Abduction: Most abduction is done by a parent. 70% are by fathers, 25% by their mothers. Parents that are likely to abduct include those that have threatened or attempted it in the past, suspect abuse by the other parent, may be paranoid, may intend to use it as revenge, punishment, trophy, or one that strongly believes that child be raised in his or her home country.
Child Abuse Assessment and Intervention: Explore and be aware of your own attitude to abuse survivors so as not to be judgmental. Do a thorough history & physical assessment. Use private, quiet uninterrupted environment. Honestly state the purpose of the interview. Inform victim of the pending physical assessment. Use a calm and supportive approach
If possible, interview child separately first before joint interview with parent or guardian. Pay attention to child’s affect (look) and behavior, mother’s understanding of the problem, discrepancies in their stories, and parent’s emotional responses. Document your assessment fully. Report suspected abuse to CPS. Coordinate services such as further assessment, psychological testing, individual psychotherapy, family psychotherapy, and group psychotherapy.
Intimate Partner Violence (IPV): IPV is a pattern of coercive and assaultive behavior between intimate and dating partners. Abuse of female partners is the more prevalent IPV. Female violence is more often in self-defense. Many IPV end in homicide or homicide-suicide. Leaving or an attempt to leave by the victim increases homicide risk. There is a higher homicide risk with handgun, history of suicidal ideation or attempt, battering during pregnancy, sexual abuse, substance use, extreme jealousy, and controlling behavior (“if I can’t have you, no one can”). Few women kill their abusers if there is no intervention. Assessment of IPV should be part of mental health assessment. Ask partners about history of conflicts, “pushing and shoving”, and quality of relationship. Observe for hesitation, looking away, and unease. Be supportive, let victim know she is not alone. Describe and map the extent of injuries. Assess for attribution e.g. self-blame. Assess for depression, PTSD, and anxiety. If patient is the abuser, assess potential for further violence. Consult legal advisor for “Duty to Warn”. Courts have made it mandatory abusers (happens to be mostly men) to be treated. Treatment includes confronting the violence, affirming that responsibility lies with the abuser, behavior therapy, anger control, attitude change to women, couple counseling, and cognitive behavior therapy (CBT). Empower the woman, using laws, community resources, support groups, and safe shelters. Mutually set goals with the victim. Mutually consider and choose from options. Help mobilize natural, social and professional supports.
Rape and Sexual Assault: This affects men, women and children, especially women and children. Sexual assault is a forced act of sexual contact without consent. It is usually done to humiliate, defile or dominate the victim. **** is a felony, yet majority is unreported. Survivors of marital **** do not seek care because of embarrassment and humiliation. Careful assessment and questioning is needed. In caring for the victim, listen, be nonjudgmental, and provide emotional support. Document your observation and assessment fully. Help collect evidence if patient chooses to litigate. In the acute stage, assess for fear, disorganization, shock, and restlessness. In the second stage, assess for flashbacks, phobias to places and people, and sexual difficulties. Encourage the victim to discuss feelings. Explore options e.g. changing phone number. Explore available community services and support groups. Refer for physical treatment and psychotherapy. Plan for a follow-up phone contact in a few days.
Elder Abuse: There are about 5 million abused elderly persons in the US annually. Spouse abuse overlaps with elder abuse
The abused does not report for fear of being abandoned to a nursing home or being isolated. Signs include bruises on arms, wrists, ankles, face lacerations, vaginal lacerations, fractures, malnutrition, poor hygiene, dehydration, flinching and shrinking away in the presence of abuser. Help and care include reporting a suspected abuse to the Adult Protective Services (APS), counseling, psychotherapy, substance abuse and treatment of the abuser, if necessary.
Reference: Stuart, G. W. & Laraia, M. T. (2005). Principles and practice of psychiatric nursing (8th ed.). St. Louis, MO: Elsevier Mosby.
Keiko Palu
Abuse & Violence in the Family
(Dr. Samson Omotosho, PhD, APRN/PMHN)
Introduction: Abuse and violence in the family refer to physically and emotionally harmful behaviors that occur between family and household members. It includes child abuse, child neglect, intimate partners abuse and violence, marital rape, and elder abuse. It could be a learned behavior that can be unlearned through therapy. Perpetrators try to isolate the family to keep it secret and avoid sanctions. They usually have some power and control over the other members of the family. They may rationalize the violence with their drug use. The use of cocaine, PCP, amphetamine etc may increase violent behavior.
Forms of Abuse: Physical abuse includes hitting, punching, shoving, stabbing, shooting, kicking, and withholding medication, wheelchair, food, and fluids. Sexual abuse includes coercion, marital rape, and withholding ***. Psychological abuse includes threat, harassment, and blackmail. Emotional abuse includes name-calling, insults, and ridicule. Economic abuse includes total control over finance, running up bills, forbidding school or work.
Myths and Reality About Violence: Family violence occurs at all levels of society. Separation or divorce may not end violence. Abuser does not need to be provoked. Some survivors wrongly tend to blame self. Treat the violence but also the alcohol, drug, stress, and mental health problems if any. Violence occurs between gays and ******** too. Abused women are discouraged from disclosure by threats, fear, denial and disbelief expressed by ‘confidants’.
Models of Intervention: The Paternalistic model assumes that the clinician has more knowledge than the patient; that the survivor is responsible for ending the violence; that the clinician should give advice and sympathy; and see the patient as a victim. Whereas, the Empowerment model, which is better, assumes that the clinician should mutually share knowledge with the patient, plan strategies with the patient, respect patient’s competence, experience and strengths, and see the patient as survivor.
Response of Survivors to Violence: Physical signs include injuries at multiple sites in various stages of healing (head, neck, face, throat, sexual organs), headache, insomnia, and stress. Behavioral sign is that the individual does not leave the abuser or leaves and returns before making a final break. Psychological signs include delayed reaction, depression, lowered self esteem, attributions e.g. self-blame, impaired school or work performance and conduct, poor concentration and poor problem solving.
Why Individual Does Not Leave the Abuser? Abused individuals do not leave the abuser for any of many reasons, which include fear of being stalked and killed (which is a realistic fear), strong emotional attachment to the abuser, determination to end the abuse, sanctions present in the couple’s culture, fear of stigma, lack of resources to live away from the abuser, and consideration of what will happen to her children if she leaves. She may leave and return, thinking, “Maybe he will change”.
Child Abuse & Neglect: In every state, child abuse and neglect are must be reported. Types of abuse include child sexual abuse, child physical abuse, child emotional abuse, and child neglect. Child that witnesses family violence may also suffer abuse.
Child Sexual Abuse: This is the involvement of children in sexual activities that they do not fully comprehend and to which they do not or cannot freely give consent. This violates child’s trust in the adult that is supposed to protect him/her. Threat to the child, pet, and others keeps the child quiet. It results in confusion, shame, and helplessness. Its effect may last a lifetime and affect mental health. It may be guarded as a family secret.
Observable Signs of Sexual Abuse: The observable signs of child sexual abuse include physical aggression, excessive masturbation, social withdrawal, low self esteem, impaired school performance, sleep disturbance, STD’s, bleeding, soreness, itching, UTI, pregnancy, bruises, swelling, redness, fracture, burns, and unkempt appearance.
School Violence: School violence is usually due to child drug use, child’s access to guns, antisocial and impulsive behaviors, family dysfunction, community unresponsiveness, interpersonal disputes, and bullying and harassment by peers.
Child Abduction: Most abduction is done by a parent. 70% are by fathers, 25% by their mothers. Parents that are likely to abduct include those that have threatened or attempted it in the past, suspect abuse by the other parent, may be paranoid, may intend to use it as revenge, punishment, trophy, or one that strongly believes that child be raised in his or her home country.
Child Abuse Assessment and Intervention: Explore and be aware of your own attitude to abuse survivors so as not to be judgmental. Do a thorough history & physical assessment. Use private, quiet uninterrupted environment. Honestly state the purpose of the interview. Inform victim of the pending physical assessment. Use a calm and supportive approach
If possible, interview child separately first before joint interview with parent or guardian. Pay attention to child’s affect (look) and behavior, mother’s understanding of the problem, discrepancies in their stories, and parent’s emotional responses. Document your assessment fully. Report suspected abuse to CPS. Coordinate services such as further assessment, psychological testing, individual psychotherapy, family psychotherapy, and group psychotherapy.
Intimate Partner Violence (IPV): IPV is a pattern of coercive and assaultive behavior between intimate and dating partners. Abuse of female partners is the more prevalent IPV. Female violence is more often in self-defense. Many IPV end in homicide or homicide-suicide. Leaving or an attempt to leave by the victim increases homicide risk. There is a higher homicide risk with handgun, history of suicidal ideation or attempt, battering during pregnancy, sexual abuse, substance use, extreme jealousy, and controlling behavior (“if I can’t have you, no one can”). Few women kill their abusers if there is no intervention. Assessment of IPV should be part of mental health assessment. Ask partners about history of conflicts, “pushing and shoving”, and quality of relationship. Observe for hesitation, looking away, and unease. Be supportive, let victim know she is not alone. Describe and map the extent of injuries. Assess for attribution e.g. self-blame. Assess for depression, PTSD, and anxiety. If patient is the abuser, assess potential for further violence. Consult legal advisor for “Duty to Warn”. Courts have made it mandatory abusers (happens to be mostly men) to be treated. Treatment includes confronting the violence, affirming that responsibility lies with the abuser, behavior therapy, anger control, attitude change to women, couple counseling, and cognitive behavior therapy (CBT). Empower the woman, using laws, community resources, support groups, and safe shelters. Mutually set goals with the victim. Mutually consider and choose from options. Help mobilize natural, social and professional supports.
Rape and Sexual Assault: This affects men, women and children, especially women and children. Sexual assault is a forced act of sexual contact without consent. It is usually done to humiliate, defile or dominate the victim. **** is a felony, yet majority is unreported. Survivors of marital **** do not seek care because of embarrassment and humiliation. Careful assessment and questioning is needed. In caring for the victim, listen, be nonjudgmental, and provide emotional support. Document your observation and assessment fully. Help collect evidence if patient chooses to litigate. In the acute stage, assess for fear, disorganization, shock, and restlessness. In the second stage, assess for flashbacks, phobias to places and people, and sexual difficulties. Encourage the victim to discuss feelings. Explore options e.g. changing phone number. Explore available community services and support groups. Refer for physical treatment and psychotherapy. Plan for a follow-up phone contact in a few days.
Elder Abuse: There are about 5 million abused elderly persons in the US annually. Spouse abuse overlaps with elder abuse
The abused does not report for fear of being abandoned to a nursing home or being isolated. Signs include bruises on arms, wrists, ankles, face lacerations, vaginal lacerations, fractures, malnutrition, poor hygiene, dehydration, flinching and shrinking away in the presence of abuser. Help and care include reporting a suspected abuse to the Adult Protective Services (APS), counseling, psychotherapy, substance abuse and treatment of the abuser, if necessary.
Reference: Stuart, G. W. & Laraia, M. T. (2005). Principles and practice of psychiatric nursing (8th ed.). St. Louis, MO: Elsevier Mosby.
Keiko Palu
Scorpiono asked:
Hello everyone, I hope this article makes you think other the way around about Who to trust, when and why..
First of all, why do we trust? We trust because we wish to gain trust, and we trust because we love or we believe it’s a good thing being honest. On the other hand, we trust because we are nearly SURE the things we say or do will never be revealed by the other person. And this is why we make mistakes..
How many fights for a girl? How many argues about you whispering something or about gossiping ?
Now, first of all trust is weakness, and when I say that I still trust other people, and sometimes I don’t regret.
An advice for everyone out there, stop judging others that hard when they do a mistake, if you have a fight, just have one and that’s it, usually never forgive, or maby in extreme cases you can forgive for the 1st time. So stop judging hard, and usually never get into unnecessary fight..
Who to trust?
Well usually you trust friends, your fiance or wife or husband, your family.. why? Because you know them better than other people, and you know that they care for you.
Family is the only thing you should never forget about.. trust is weakness here only a few times, when you brag about something or talk about math problems with your dad, that’s still not good, you trust him to be your friend and suddely they react the other way just because they are parents! Live with it! But never lie.. trust but without talking too much about your personal life. They are the only ones you can rely all the time.
Friends and your soul mate, well.. first of all men are like animals, you can’t blame them for having a strange **** look at any other girl, if you argue with him on this issue, be sure you’ll get nowhere. One thing is for sure, after watching so many videos and “Cheaters”, 90% of the cheater person, was someone close to you, your best friend or your neighbourg.
Why? Because they are in the same social circle as you are, you can’t get a girl without knowing her, and having at least a few common activities. So if the girl leaves you for anohter guy, blame it on you or on her personality! Usually you think you never did a mistake..you might, actually you really did in her mind!
Conclusion: Friends will go for your fiance all the time, be aware, keep her happy or check her behaviour all the time without letting her know, don’t argue with her or anything, just watch and learn, if anything strange happens, get out of her hook-point, leave her! Doesn’t worth!
Also alot of ******* cases occur after breakups, I’ve actually had a friend killing himself for a girl, why? She didn’t worth his time, and now he’s dead as well for her, blah.. stupid!
When?
You usually trust after quite a while, you got to know the person and got to be careful at details.
The longer you know him/her doesn’t mean you necessarily should trust more.. you might ask why? Well, depends on the relation between you guys, imagine that a jailed guy definetly knows for a long time his cellmate, will he tell him he got more cigars under the bed? NO!
Check your relation with the other person as well, another big mistake about trust is made here, you think that if you knnow the guy this much, you should trust.. don’t! Re-check your social status with him!
Why?
I’ve already mentioned that, it’s because of the human nature, willing to share secrets and thoughs with someone, and who you chose the best, I’ve listed above..
After reading this, it’s definetly not going to help you from getting backstabbed when you trust, just keep your guard up and your mind clear, there’s so many beautiful things on this earth..
Cheers,
Mohamed Vicic
Hello everyone, I hope this article makes you think other the way around about Who to trust, when and why..
First of all, why do we trust? We trust because we wish to gain trust, and we trust because we love or we believe it’s a good thing being honest. On the other hand, we trust because we are nearly SURE the things we say or do will never be revealed by the other person. And this is why we make mistakes..
How many fights for a girl? How many argues about you whispering something or about gossiping ?
Now, first of all trust is weakness, and when I say that I still trust other people, and sometimes I don’t regret.
An advice for everyone out there, stop judging others that hard when they do a mistake, if you have a fight, just have one and that’s it, usually never forgive, or maby in extreme cases you can forgive for the 1st time. So stop judging hard, and usually never get into unnecessary fight..
Who to trust?
Well usually you trust friends, your fiance or wife or husband, your family.. why? Because you know them better than other people, and you know that they care for you.
Family is the only thing you should never forget about.. trust is weakness here only a few times, when you brag about something or talk about math problems with your dad, that’s still not good, you trust him to be your friend and suddely they react the other way just because they are parents! Live with it! But never lie.. trust but without talking too much about your personal life. They are the only ones you can rely all the time.
Friends and your soul mate, well.. first of all men are like animals, you can’t blame them for having a strange **** look at any other girl, if you argue with him on this issue, be sure you’ll get nowhere. One thing is for sure, after watching so many videos and “Cheaters”, 90% of the cheater person, was someone close to you, your best friend or your neighbourg.
Why? Because they are in the same social circle as you are, you can’t get a girl without knowing her, and having at least a few common activities. So if the girl leaves you for anohter guy, blame it on you or on her personality! Usually you think you never did a mistake..you might, actually you really did in her mind!
Conclusion: Friends will go for your fiance all the time, be aware, keep her happy or check her behaviour all the time without letting her know, don’t argue with her or anything, just watch and learn, if anything strange happens, get out of her hook-point, leave her! Doesn’t worth!
Also alot of ******* cases occur after breakups, I’ve actually had a friend killing himself for a girl, why? She didn’t worth his time, and now he’s dead as well for her, blah.. stupid!
When?
You usually trust after quite a while, you got to know the person and got to be careful at details.
The longer you know him/her doesn’t mean you necessarily should trust more.. you might ask why? Well, depends on the relation between you guys, imagine that a jailed guy definetly knows for a long time his cellmate, will he tell him he got more cigars under the bed? NO!
Check your relation with the other person as well, another big mistake about trust is made here, you think that if you knnow the guy this much, you should trust.. don’t! Re-check your social status with him!
Why?
I’ve already mentioned that, it’s because of the human nature, willing to share secrets and thoughs with someone, and who you chose the best, I’ve listed above..
After reading this, it’s definetly not going to help you from getting backstabbed when you trust, just keep your guard up and your mind clear, there’s so many beautiful things on this earth..
Cheers,
Mohamed Vicic
Nick Kakolowski asked:
An escorted tour is a great option when planning a family vacation. Escorted tours provide the benefit of spending time with your family while enjoying the culture and landmarks of the area you are visiting. There are tour companies which cater specifically to family vacations such as Adventures by Disney, Tauck Bridges Tours, and Globus Tours.
There are few companies that provide fun for the entire family like Disney; fortunately this value spreads to tours as well. The company that brings your family the animated classics of Aladdin and Lion King also can bring you that magic with Adventures by Disney vacations. With over fifteen different packages, you are sure to find a place to visit that will enlighten your entire family’s imagination. Each tour consists of no more than thirty to forty passengers, with two guides to make your vacation special. These guides are knowledgeable about the destinations that you will be visiting, and can provide information to meet just about any of your needs.
However, there is more to these tours then just places and history. These great family tours are also prepared to make things interesting for the wide range of ages that may be present. Their goal is to make the information that is being presented and the activities that are performed worthwhile for every person on the trip. Another feature of the Disney tours is local experts. At many of the destinations, you and your family will meet individuals who actually participate in the cultural activities that are being showcased. A few examples of these experts are artisans and scientists. If you are looking for an escorted tour for the whole family you can put your trust in the same company that has been entertaining families for generations.
If you are looking for a cross cultural, cross generational experience for your family vacation, then the Tauck Bridges tours may fit your needs. As a branch of the Tauck World Discovery Company that has been around since 1925, Tauck Bridges is known for offering a quality, time tested formula for fun. These tours are designed specifically to cross over lines that often split cultures and generations apart. Being exposed to new knowledge from the perspective of an informed, friendly tour guide simultaneously turns the trip into an adventure and eye-opening educational experience. Some destinations available provide attractions that will display natural beauty, historical significance and cultural relevance in such a way that it will be visible to all ages.
With all of your needs met in advance, you will be free to enjoy these experiences with your loved ones while your meals, hotel rooms and even tips are taken care of in advance. The group prices you will receive by traveling on an escorted tour will make this vacation affordable enough to bring the entire family. The Tauck Bridges escorted tour can provide fun filled adventures that will inform your family, while bringing everyone closer together.
If neither of these options quite fit your need, Globus Tours, another top tour provider, offers options to close generational gaps, and bring together your entire family. Globus Tours can provide this fun filled vacation which also brings your family together. You want a tour that offers shorter stopovers so that your younger children can handle the time spent traveling. And you need a tour that is going to take care of the logistics; otherwise the entire trip will be a stressful misadventure. With eight options for destinations, the Globus Tours Company offers an exciting option for your family vacation.
There are many places you can go, and many sights to see when vacationing as a family. The potential for fun is unlimited, but so is the potential for stress. Tour services such as: Adventures by Disney, Tauck Bridges Tours, and Globus Tours are all great escorted tour services that your entire family can enjoy. The tour guide’s knowledge will provide an educational trip filled with fun activities designed to bring your family together. Let these experienced tour companies take care of transportation, lodging and even most meals. Pay in advance, relax and enjoy the ride.
Emanuel Ahlbrecht
An escorted tour is a great option when planning a family vacation. Escorted tours provide the benefit of spending time with your family while enjoying the culture and landmarks of the area you are visiting. There are tour companies which cater specifically to family vacations such as Adventures by Disney, Tauck Bridges Tours, and Globus Tours.
There are few companies that provide fun for the entire family like Disney; fortunately this value spreads to tours as well. The company that brings your family the animated classics of Aladdin and Lion King also can bring you that magic with Adventures by Disney vacations. With over fifteen different packages, you are sure to find a place to visit that will enlighten your entire family’s imagination. Each tour consists of no more than thirty to forty passengers, with two guides to make your vacation special. These guides are knowledgeable about the destinations that you will be visiting, and can provide information to meet just about any of your needs.
However, there is more to these tours then just places and history. These great family tours are also prepared to make things interesting for the wide range of ages that may be present. Their goal is to make the information that is being presented and the activities that are performed worthwhile for every person on the trip. Another feature of the Disney tours is local experts. At many of the destinations, you and your family will meet individuals who actually participate in the cultural activities that are being showcased. A few examples of these experts are artisans and scientists. If you are looking for an escorted tour for the whole family you can put your trust in the same company that has been entertaining families for generations.
If you are looking for a cross cultural, cross generational experience for your family vacation, then the Tauck Bridges tours may fit your needs. As a branch of the Tauck World Discovery Company that has been around since 1925, Tauck Bridges is known for offering a quality, time tested formula for fun. These tours are designed specifically to cross over lines that often split cultures and generations apart. Being exposed to new knowledge from the perspective of an informed, friendly tour guide simultaneously turns the trip into an adventure and eye-opening educational experience. Some destinations available provide attractions that will display natural beauty, historical significance and cultural relevance in such a way that it will be visible to all ages.
With all of your needs met in advance, you will be free to enjoy these experiences with your loved ones while your meals, hotel rooms and even tips are taken care of in advance. The group prices you will receive by traveling on an escorted tour will make this vacation affordable enough to bring the entire family. The Tauck Bridges escorted tour can provide fun filled adventures that will inform your family, while bringing everyone closer together.
If neither of these options quite fit your need, Globus Tours, another top tour provider, offers options to close generational gaps, and bring together your entire family. Globus Tours can provide this fun filled vacation which also brings your family together. You want a tour that offers shorter stopovers so that your younger children can handle the time spent traveling. And you need a tour that is going to take care of the logistics; otherwise the entire trip will be a stressful misadventure. With eight options for destinations, the Globus Tours Company offers an exciting option for your family vacation.
There are many places you can go, and many sights to see when vacationing as a family. The potential for fun is unlimited, but so is the potential for stress. Tour services such as: Adventures by Disney, Tauck Bridges Tours, and Globus Tours are all great escorted tour services that your entire family can enjoy. The tour guide’s knowledge will provide an educational trip filled with fun activities designed to bring your family together. Let these experienced tour companies take care of transportation, lodging and even most meals. Pay in advance, relax and enjoy the ride.
Emanuel Ahlbrecht
DR. DAN L. EDMUNDS asked:
Within the structure of the family are certain rules that are established that the members are to adhere to. These rules may not always be sensible, but nonetheless become a part of how the family operates. They are generally known, whether or not they always be followed. It is dependent on who is in control and what the consequences are for violation whether the family members adhere to the established rules of conducting themselves.
Children have moments of looking at themselves apart from the established structure. This becomes more pronounced in the teen years. This can become a major source of contention inwardly where the child sees himself in a way that may not meet to the approval of the family structure. The structure where authoritarianism reigns may shun the thought and creative expression of the child leading to repression of independent thought and action. The child is expected to do those things which protect and preserve the family structure. The structure may be faulty, but nonetheless it is maintained, at times violently so. Being a deviant from the structure can have dire consequences for the child, from within the family structure itself and as a result of the energies wasted in a struggle to change something where they have not been empowered to evoke change. They are left only to comply. Their unhappiness and discontent will be ignored to preserve the ‘integrity of the family structure.”
Often there exists the situation of self fulfilling prophecies within certain structures. What one hears they unfortunately become. If a child is told that he is a certain way, and this becomes a repetitive message, it is likely he will behave in like fashion. The child may repeat the very language he hears, not necesarily knowing its meaning, but knowing it conveys a feeling and can be used as a defense.
There exists at times in families, one who will do all possible to preserve the structure, no matter how dysfunctional it may be. This person often utilizes an authoritarian stance and expects their children to respect them solely for the sake of their presumed authority. Their objective is control, and the independent or creative nature of the child is looked upon as a deficit. The child’s only voice is to be the parental voice, if it is not, punishment will certainly come. This person is many times a person who implies the idea of ‘do as I say” but not necessarily as they do. This creates despair in the child, leading to states of hopelessness and depression. They may begin to question their sense of self, their own identity. They become anxious, fearful children who appear timid because they dare not speak something which could bring them punishment from the authority in charge of the structure. This learned behavior begins to manifest outside the family structure as well, as these are the children who then become easily swayed by peer influence. These are the children who do not really know themselves so they adopt the traits of those around them, seeking to gain acceptance and a sense of belonging. They are thus always victims of control. Once they branch out from the control of the authoritarian parent, they are bound to be controlled by some other party who will influence their decisions and deprive them of critical thought. They may not realize they are being controlled, thinking they are somehow apart because they belong to a ‘clan’ who dresses this different way or that, but nonetheless they are under the control of something or someone. These children are usually the underachievers. They are not sure of what to strive for, thus they often do not strive at all. They allow life to merely ‘happen’ rather than taking charge themselves.
The overacheiver is one bound by feelings of inadequacy and this often takes its roots in the familial structure. It is often in these situations where there exists a force within the family who has defined the rule of what it means to be ‘successful’. There is the constant pressure and drive to have the child to conform to expectations. Those with this structure in place highly value competitiveness. The siblings are often competing for attention for one another. It is often the only child or the firstborn who is placed in the glorified role. If they meet the expectation, they are heaped with praise, if they do not, they are likely to be cast aside. Once cast aside, or in the worst case, cut off from the family, they often enter into depressed states. They may seek various avenues to mask their feelings of inadequacy. These feelings of inadequacy may impair their future relationships. They may become those always striving for an unreachable ideal, always slightly out of reach. They cannot fully accept themselves in the present moment, but always want to be gaining or achieving more. They become individuals whose level of dissatisfaction can become immense.
There is the public image and the private image. This dichotomy often creates great confusion and distress and can lead the child to questioning of reality and their identity. What is meant by the public image is what the leader(s) of the family structure which to convey to the outside world, whereas the private image is that dysfunction which lies within that these individuals are wanting to conceal at whatever cost. Familial secrets exist, trust is lacking, and children are guarded about their expression. Children may be lied to and dilemmas between family members masked or suppressed. The real nature of things may be shrouded in confusion and ‘mystery’. Mixed messages may arise, or the members of the family may see themselves placed in ‘damned if you do and damned if you don’t situations.” Some family members may frustrate themselves in striving for the ‘ideal’ structure which never arrives.
In the dysfunctional structure, as in oppressive societal regimes, there are those who seek rebellion. Rebellion against the structure becomes more pronounced in the stage of adolescence where already the teenager is beginning to exert a greater sense of autonomy and desire to be apart from the familial structure. However, because children lack the resources for which to engage in a rebellion that could be successful, the rebellion is always squashed. What does this leave the child to do? They can do little but endure and await the period where they can break free from the strcuture that they find oppressive. What is termed ‘conduct’ problems is usually this desire to break free from what the child has pereceived as oppresive in their lives. Often without the appropriate guidance and ‘moral compass’ coming from the familial structure, their rebellion turns not just to fighting the familial structure, but the structures outside which also resemble the authority they have found oppressive. This type of rebellion is usually futile and self-destructive. There exists the warring between parents themselves, which cause the children to be placed in the predicament of divided loyalties, not knowing which parent to turn towards. There may exist the opposing styles, one parent who is permissive and one who is the authoritarian. This scenario leads to immense conflict.
In the worst scenarios, the combination of ‘seared in’ memories of trauma, with the dynamics as mentioned above leads to the disintegration of the person. Reality is too painful, and is questionable. Reality is not reliable. As a result, this member of the family seeks to ‘break out’ and develops the behavior that would be termed psychosis. They retreat into their own inner world, their own sense of reality and identity. This too is often a painful journey, but not anymore painful than the experience of the structure they have felt subjected to. Children in some structures are still viewed as ‘property’, therefore they are often enslaved to the faulty structures. Mere compliance does not earn one’s freedom but neither does active rebellion. Cycles exist, once a structure is learned, it is bound for continuation. The child in many instances will perpetuate the structure that they learned once they have their own family to lead. The stresses and trauma of one can often become the stresses and trauma of all, it becomes a collective trauma. The faulty structures within the family dynamics are seen in society as a whole. Therefore, we are all shaped by the society and the family structures in which we have encountered. Thus, concepts of ‘mental illness’ or the ‘unruly child’ all take shape and form by the experience one has in the family and ultimately in society. These are not biological processes, but rather social and political processes.
If the structure of family can instead become collective in its ideas of shared energy for problem solving, the allowance for independent thought and action, and the conception of freedom with responsibility, it may survive.
Micheal Rieske
Within the structure of the family are certain rules that are established that the members are to adhere to. These rules may not always be sensible, but nonetheless become a part of how the family operates. They are generally known, whether or not they always be followed. It is dependent on who is in control and what the consequences are for violation whether the family members adhere to the established rules of conducting themselves.
Children have moments of looking at themselves apart from the established structure. This becomes more pronounced in the teen years. This can become a major source of contention inwardly where the child sees himself in a way that may not meet to the approval of the family structure. The structure where authoritarianism reigns may shun the thought and creative expression of the child leading to repression of independent thought and action. The child is expected to do those things which protect and preserve the family structure. The structure may be faulty, but nonetheless it is maintained, at times violently so. Being a deviant from the structure can have dire consequences for the child, from within the family structure itself and as a result of the energies wasted in a struggle to change something where they have not been empowered to evoke change. They are left only to comply. Their unhappiness and discontent will be ignored to preserve the ‘integrity of the family structure.”
Often there exists the situation of self fulfilling prophecies within certain structures. What one hears they unfortunately become. If a child is told that he is a certain way, and this becomes a repetitive message, it is likely he will behave in like fashion. The child may repeat the very language he hears, not necesarily knowing its meaning, but knowing it conveys a feeling and can be used as a defense.
There exists at times in families, one who will do all possible to preserve the structure, no matter how dysfunctional it may be. This person often utilizes an authoritarian stance and expects their children to respect them solely for the sake of their presumed authority. Their objective is control, and the independent or creative nature of the child is looked upon as a deficit. The child’s only voice is to be the parental voice, if it is not, punishment will certainly come. This person is many times a person who implies the idea of ‘do as I say” but not necessarily as they do. This creates despair in the child, leading to states of hopelessness and depression. They may begin to question their sense of self, their own identity. They become anxious, fearful children who appear timid because they dare not speak something which could bring them punishment from the authority in charge of the structure. This learned behavior begins to manifest outside the family structure as well, as these are the children who then become easily swayed by peer influence. These are the children who do not really know themselves so they adopt the traits of those around them, seeking to gain acceptance and a sense of belonging. They are thus always victims of control. Once they branch out from the control of the authoritarian parent, they are bound to be controlled by some other party who will influence their decisions and deprive them of critical thought. They may not realize they are being controlled, thinking they are somehow apart because they belong to a ‘clan’ who dresses this different way or that, but nonetheless they are under the control of something or someone. These children are usually the underachievers. They are not sure of what to strive for, thus they often do not strive at all. They allow life to merely ‘happen’ rather than taking charge themselves.
The overacheiver is one bound by feelings of inadequacy and this often takes its roots in the familial structure. It is often in these situations where there exists a force within the family who has defined the rule of what it means to be ‘successful’. There is the constant pressure and drive to have the child to conform to expectations. Those with this structure in place highly value competitiveness. The siblings are often competing for attention for one another. It is often the only child or the firstborn who is placed in the glorified role. If they meet the expectation, they are heaped with praise, if they do not, they are likely to be cast aside. Once cast aside, or in the worst case, cut off from the family, they often enter into depressed states. They may seek various avenues to mask their feelings of inadequacy. These feelings of inadequacy may impair their future relationships. They may become those always striving for an unreachable ideal, always slightly out of reach. They cannot fully accept themselves in the present moment, but always want to be gaining or achieving more. They become individuals whose level of dissatisfaction can become immense.
There is the public image and the private image. This dichotomy often creates great confusion and distress and can lead the child to questioning of reality and their identity. What is meant by the public image is what the leader(s) of the family structure which to convey to the outside world, whereas the private image is that dysfunction which lies within that these individuals are wanting to conceal at whatever cost. Familial secrets exist, trust is lacking, and children are guarded about their expression. Children may be lied to and dilemmas between family members masked or suppressed. The real nature of things may be shrouded in confusion and ‘mystery’. Mixed messages may arise, or the members of the family may see themselves placed in ‘damned if you do and damned if you don’t situations.” Some family members may frustrate themselves in striving for the ‘ideal’ structure which never arrives.
In the dysfunctional structure, as in oppressive societal regimes, there are those who seek rebellion. Rebellion against the structure becomes more pronounced in the stage of adolescence where already the teenager is beginning to exert a greater sense of autonomy and desire to be apart from the familial structure. However, because children lack the resources for which to engage in a rebellion that could be successful, the rebellion is always squashed. What does this leave the child to do? They can do little but endure and await the period where they can break free from the strcuture that they find oppressive. What is termed ‘conduct’ problems is usually this desire to break free from what the child has pereceived as oppresive in their lives. Often without the appropriate guidance and ‘moral compass’ coming from the familial structure, their rebellion turns not just to fighting the familial structure, but the structures outside which also resemble the authority they have found oppressive. This type of rebellion is usually futile and self-destructive. There exists the warring between parents themselves, which cause the children to be placed in the predicament of divided loyalties, not knowing which parent to turn towards. There may exist the opposing styles, one parent who is permissive and one who is the authoritarian. This scenario leads to immense conflict.
In the worst scenarios, the combination of ‘seared in’ memories of trauma, with the dynamics as mentioned above leads to the disintegration of the person. Reality is too painful, and is questionable. Reality is not reliable. As a result, this member of the family seeks to ‘break out’ and develops the behavior that would be termed psychosis. They retreat into their own inner world, their own sense of reality and identity. This too is often a painful journey, but not anymore painful than the experience of the structure they have felt subjected to. Children in some structures are still viewed as ‘property’, therefore they are often enslaved to the faulty structures. Mere compliance does not earn one’s freedom but neither does active rebellion. Cycles exist, once a structure is learned, it is bound for continuation. The child in many instances will perpetuate the structure that they learned once they have their own family to lead. The stresses and trauma of one can often become the stresses and trauma of all, it becomes a collective trauma. The faulty structures within the family dynamics are seen in society as a whole. Therefore, we are all shaped by the society and the family structures in which we have encountered. Thus, concepts of ‘mental illness’ or the ‘unruly child’ all take shape and form by the experience one has in the family and ultimately in society. These are not biological processes, but rather social and political processes.
If the structure of family can instead become collective in its ideas of shared energy for problem solving, the allowance for independent thought and action, and the conception of freedom with responsibility, it may survive.
Micheal Rieske
Nicole Beurkens, M.Ed. asked:
The holidays can be both a joyful and stressful time for all families. This can especially be the case for families of individuals with autism or other neuro-developmental disabilities. If you’re racking your brain to come up with some excuses you can use to avoid a holiday event you dread, here are a few you can try out this year:
Top 10 Great Excuses to Use at the Holidays
There is a Sponge Bob marathon on TV, and we have to be home to tape it…all 24 hours of it.
The neighbors have had the flu, and I’m pretty sure we’re going to come down with it.
The kids hid the car keys—both sets.
Oh, was that today? I thought you said NEXT week!
The dog ate the green bean casserole we were supposed to bring, and we’d **** to show up empty handed.
I’ve gained a bunch of weight this year, and just won’t fit with 7 other people at a card table made for 4.
We’ve all developed a rare turkey allergy—can’t even be in the same room with it!
Sure, we’d be glad to come. Of course, we’ll have to bring our set of 3 new not-yet-house-trained puppies with us so they don’t get lonely.
We’ll be celebrating with the other side of the family this year.
We’re boycotting the holidays due to over-commercialization.
Don’t think any of those excuses will fly? Here are some real tips for reducing the hectic-ness and increasing the happiness in your holiday season:
It’s okay to say “No!”
Sometimes we feel compelled to say “yes” to every holiday invitation that comes our way. This can especially be the case with family events. You know your child’s limits and need to take those into consideration when setting up your holiday social calendar. You can say no while still being polite, and save yourself and your child a ton of grief in the process. Attend the events that are meaningful and important to you, and make other arrangements for your child if necessary. If you’re dreading it, then that’s a good sign you should gracefully opt out this year!
Arrange small quiet gatherings with family and friends.
One family I know celebrates the holidays with family extended family members in “shifts.” They invite a few over at a time in the weeks surrounding the holiday. This way they get to see everyone without overwhelming their children. They stay in their comfortable familiar environment, while family members take turns coming to visit them. No one is left out, and the experience is much more enjoyable for everyone involved.
Provide gift ideas.
If you’re worried about some of the gifts your child might receive this year, try to avoid the problem by providing family members with gift ideas. Don’t want a bunch of electronic games and toys? Make a list of games, craft supplies, books, and other things you would prefer for your kids. I also know some families who ask for gift cards that can be used toward things like therapy, therapeutic supplies, restaurants, or some of the favorite places their children like to visit.
Plan ahead.
When going to someone else’s home for the holidays, make sure you think about your children’s needs ahead of time. Bring plenty of activities, snacks, books, clothing, etc. that will help them feel comfortable and keep them occupied. It can also be helpful to find a quiet place at the location you will be visiting where you and your child can get away from the group. This way you have somewhere to go when you notice that your child is getting over-stimulated or just needs a break.
Don’t be afraid to communicate your needs.
While there will always be some people, family members included, who don’t understand the need for accommodations, most people want to be supportive. If there are things that will help make the experience more enjoyable and tolerable for your child then let others know that. This can include making requests that people not wear perfume, that others not give your child food you didn’t bring with you, or that they allow your child some time to “warm up” before trying to talk to him/her or give hugs. Think about the things you know cause your child to feel uncomfortable or react negatively, and communicate some simple things others can do to accommodate him/her.
The holidays are supposed to be a time of peace, joy, and happiness. Don’t sacrifice those things for yourself and your child by accommodating everyone else. Plan ahead, trust your instincts, and when all else fails—come up with a great excuse!
Emilia Lane
The holidays can be both a joyful and stressful time for all families. This can especially be the case for families of individuals with autism or other neuro-developmental disabilities. If you’re racking your brain to come up with some excuses you can use to avoid a holiday event you dread, here are a few you can try out this year:
Top 10 Great Excuses to Use at the Holidays
There is a Sponge Bob marathon on TV, and we have to be home to tape it…all 24 hours of it.
The neighbors have had the flu, and I’m pretty sure we’re going to come down with it.
The kids hid the car keys—both sets.
Oh, was that today? I thought you said NEXT week!
The dog ate the green bean casserole we were supposed to bring, and we’d **** to show up empty handed.
I’ve gained a bunch of weight this year, and just won’t fit with 7 other people at a card table made for 4.
We’ve all developed a rare turkey allergy—can’t even be in the same room with it!
Sure, we’d be glad to come. Of course, we’ll have to bring our set of 3 new not-yet-house-trained puppies with us so they don’t get lonely.
We’ll be celebrating with the other side of the family this year.
We’re boycotting the holidays due to over-commercialization.
Don’t think any of those excuses will fly? Here are some real tips for reducing the hectic-ness and increasing the happiness in your holiday season:
It’s okay to say “No!”
Sometimes we feel compelled to say “yes” to every holiday invitation that comes our way. This can especially be the case with family events. You know your child’s limits and need to take those into consideration when setting up your holiday social calendar. You can say no while still being polite, and save yourself and your child a ton of grief in the process. Attend the events that are meaningful and important to you, and make other arrangements for your child if necessary. If you’re dreading it, then that’s a good sign you should gracefully opt out this year!
Arrange small quiet gatherings with family and friends.
One family I know celebrates the holidays with family extended family members in “shifts.” They invite a few over at a time in the weeks surrounding the holiday. This way they get to see everyone without overwhelming their children. They stay in their comfortable familiar environment, while family members take turns coming to visit them. No one is left out, and the experience is much more enjoyable for everyone involved.
Provide gift ideas.
If you’re worried about some of the gifts your child might receive this year, try to avoid the problem by providing family members with gift ideas. Don’t want a bunch of electronic games and toys? Make a list of games, craft supplies, books, and other things you would prefer for your kids. I also know some families who ask for gift cards that can be used toward things like therapy, therapeutic supplies, restaurants, or some of the favorite places their children like to visit.
Plan ahead.
When going to someone else’s home for the holidays, make sure you think about your children’s needs ahead of time. Bring plenty of activities, snacks, books, clothing, etc. that will help them feel comfortable and keep them occupied. It can also be helpful to find a quiet place at the location you will be visiting where you and your child can get away from the group. This way you have somewhere to go when you notice that your child is getting over-stimulated or just needs a break.
Don’t be afraid to communicate your needs.
While there will always be some people, family members included, who don’t understand the need for accommodations, most people want to be supportive. If there are things that will help make the experience more enjoyable and tolerable for your child then let others know that. This can include making requests that people not wear perfume, that others not give your child food you didn’t bring with you, or that they allow your child some time to “warm up” before trying to talk to him/her or give hugs. Think about the things you know cause your child to feel uncomfortable or react negatively, and communicate some simple things others can do to accommodate him/her.
The holidays are supposed to be a time of peace, joy, and happiness. Don’t sacrifice those things for yourself and your child by accommodating everyone else. Plan ahead, trust your instincts, and when all else fails—come up with a great excuse!
Emilia Lane
Jennifer Baxt asked:
There are many situations or difficulties that can hurt a family unit. It could be that a parent or both parents are suffering from substance abuse problems, a member of the immediate family has passed away, or even poor communication. Families that do not spend much time together and where clear communication is lacking can have difficulty in remaining a strong family unit. Many do not realize it, but one of the first things needed to having a strong and happy family unit is communication. Without proper communication, there can be a lack of trust, an increased chance of misunderstanding and a good chance that the family could eventually fall apart; meaning that each member of the family will go their own separate way.
While good communication alone is not going to ensure that a family has strong bonds, communication does play a large roll in keeping the family a stronger unit that will have more of a chance at staying together. Communication opens the door to there being support in the family, understanding, trust, respect and even happiness. When everyone in the family feels they always have someone to talk to who will listen to them when life gets rough, they can feel more secure in the family they are in. Being able to have others they can trust and rely on can make for a happier family environment where both the children and parents can feel healthy, safe and secure. It is amazing how much the lack of communication can negatively affect the family as a whole. This is probably because without proper communication there can be many misunderstandings and even fights within the family. A lack of communication could also cause large rifts to begin forming between family members and each individual can lose track of what is going on in the rest of the family. The family members can start drifting apart and the family unit can fall apart.
Many families have communication problems and don’t even realize it. This is why it is a good idea that a family that wishes to stay together and create a strong family unit, whether they think they have good communication or not, should visit a family therapist. Online therapy is also available. A family that has questions about good communication can easily go online, do a quick search for an online family therapist and then send the therapist any questions they might have. If family counseling is necessary, the family therapist can work with the family online in order to develop good communication skills within the family unit. It is always best for a family to ensure they have good communication skills from the start, because as time goes on it can become more difficult to develop those communications skills after rifts have started to appear. An online therapist can help the family, whether they have children or not, develop these skills so that they can have a stronger family unit from the start. A good strong family helps to create a safe and secure atmosphere for all the members.
Nathan
There are many situations or difficulties that can hurt a family unit. It could be that a parent or both parents are suffering from substance abuse problems, a member of the immediate family has passed away, or even poor communication. Families that do not spend much time together and where clear communication is lacking can have difficulty in remaining a strong family unit. Many do not realize it, but one of the first things needed to having a strong and happy family unit is communication. Without proper communication, there can be a lack of trust, an increased chance of misunderstanding and a good chance that the family could eventually fall apart; meaning that each member of the family will go their own separate way.
While good communication alone is not going to ensure that a family has strong bonds, communication does play a large roll in keeping the family a stronger unit that will have more of a chance at staying together. Communication opens the door to there being support in the family, understanding, trust, respect and even happiness. When everyone in the family feels they always have someone to talk to who will listen to them when life gets rough, they can feel more secure in the family they are in. Being able to have others they can trust and rely on can make for a happier family environment where both the children and parents can feel healthy, safe and secure. It is amazing how much the lack of communication can negatively affect the family as a whole. This is probably because without proper communication there can be many misunderstandings and even fights within the family. A lack of communication could also cause large rifts to begin forming between family members and each individual can lose track of what is going on in the rest of the family. The family members can start drifting apart and the family unit can fall apart.
Many families have communication problems and don’t even realize it. This is why it is a good idea that a family that wishes to stay together and create a strong family unit, whether they think they have good communication or not, should visit a family therapist. Online therapy is also available. A family that has questions about good communication can easily go online, do a quick search for an online family therapist and then send the therapist any questions they might have. If family counseling is necessary, the family therapist can work with the family online in order to develop good communication skills within the family unit. It is always best for a family to ensure they have good communication skills from the start, because as time goes on it can become more difficult to develop those communications skills after rifts have started to appear. An online therapist can help the family, whether they have children or not, develop these skills so that they can have a stronger family unit from the start. A good strong family helps to create a safe and secure atmosphere for all the members.
Nathan
Francis Hosein asked:
There are psychics like in any other fields there are good ones and bad ones, their talented ones as well as not so talented.
Not everyone is as psychic as they pretend to be, and psychic do have their off days as well.
Depend on who
Not all psychic can help you for some are specialize in missing persons, contacting the dead or pass life events.
What you want to know
Taking the time to know what you want can make a difference in time and money in getting your answers.
Knowing that you need help with specific questions and you have chosen the right psychic makes a difference.
Holding to the past
When you hold on to past events it stops you from moving on and living the life you are meant to live.
Having a psychic reading can shed some light on the emotional places within that is holding you back.
You may not be aware that you are being held back by these pass events yet you know that you life has been on hold.
Fear
The emotional feeling of fear can stop you in your tracks from moving forward and you may not know how to move ahead with these fears.
This is one of the biggest stumbling blocks that many people have to deal with and you may be one of them.
Blaming
Blaming yourself or another because is another emotional sabotage that you may confront in your healing process.
When you take the time to get help from a psychic you may be shown how to heal these emotional feelings and change your life for good.
If the psychic is blaming you then trust your hunches or your gut feelings that psychic is not good for you.
Change
As you take the time to get a reading you can expect that you will be shown ways to help you change you life that is aligning to your needs.
Trusting
One of the first steps to do when you are getting a reading is to ask around from family and friends for a good psychic they may have gone to and then you open yourself to trust in the psychic.
If you do not feel right with the psychic or that they are all negative or not helping you then you know you have gone to the wrong psychic.
Listening
Listening to the psychic is a big part that will help you to make the change in your life.
As you listen you will be hear more thing and you will be able to ask follow up questions.
Conclusion: Yes you can trust a psychic when you have done some research with the kind of psychic you are searching for.
There are psychics like in any other fields there are good ones and bad ones, their talented ones as well as not so talented.
Not everyone is as psychic as they pretend to be, and psychic do have their off days as well.
Depend on who
Not all psychic can help you for some are specialize in missing persons, contacting the dead or pass life events.
What you want to know
Taking the time to know what you want can make a difference in time and money in getting your answers.
Knowing that you need help with specific questions and you have chosen the right psychic makes a difference.
Holding to the past
When you hold on to past events it stops you from moving on and living the life you are meant to live.
Having a psychic reading can shed some light on the emotional places within that is holding you back.
You may not be aware that you are being held back by these pass events yet you know that you life has been on hold.
Fear
The emotional feeling of fear can stop you in your tracks from moving forward and you may not know how to move ahead with these fears.
This is one of the biggest stumbling blocks that many people have to deal with and you may be one of them.
Blaming
Blaming yourself or another because is another emotional sabotage that you may confront in your healing process.
When you take the time to get help from a psychic you may be shown how to heal these emotional feelings and change your life for good.
If the psychic is blaming you then trust your hunches or your gut feelings that psychic is not good for you.
Change
As you take the time to get a reading you can expect that you will be shown ways to help you change you life that is aligning to your needs.
Trusting
One of the first steps to do when you are getting a reading is to ask around from family and friends for a good psychic they may have gone to and then you open yourself to trust in the psychic.
If you do not feel right with the psychic or that they are all negative or not helping you then you know you have gone to the wrong psychic.
Listening
Listening to the psychic is a big part that will help you to make the change in your life.
As you listen you will be hear more thing and you will be able to ask follow up questions.
Conclusion: Yes you can trust a psychic when you have done some research with the kind of psychic you are searching for.
Glory Mcdade
There are psychics like in any other fields there are good ones and bad ones, their talented ones as well as not so talented.
Not everyone is as psychic as they pretend to be, and psychic do have their off days as well.
Depend on who
Not all psychic can help you for some are specialize in missing persons, contacting the dead or pass life events.
What you want to know
Taking the time to know what you want can make a difference in time and money in getting your answers.
Knowing that you need help with specific questions and you have chosen the right psychic makes a difference.
Holding to the past
When you hold on to past events it stops you from moving on and living the life you are meant to live.
Having a psychic reading can shed some light on the emotional places within that is holding you back.
You may not be aware that you are being held back by these pass events yet you know that you life has been on hold.
Fear
The emotional feeling of fear can stop you in your tracks from moving forward and you may not know how to move ahead with these fears.
This is one of the biggest stumbling blocks that many people have to deal with and you may be one of them.
Blaming
Blaming yourself or another because is another emotional sabotage that you may confront in your healing process.
When you take the time to get help from a psychic you may be shown how to heal these emotional feelings and change your life for good.
If the psychic is blaming you then trust your hunches or your gut feelings that psychic is not good for you.
Change
As you take the time to get a reading you can expect that you will be shown ways to help you change you life that is aligning to your needs.
Trusting
One of the first steps to do when you are getting a reading is to ask around from family and friends for a good psychic they may have gone to and then you open yourself to trust in the psychic.
If you do not feel right with the psychic or that they are all negative or not helping you then you know you have gone to the wrong psychic.
Listening
Listening to the psychic is a big part that will help you to make the change in your life.
As you listen you will be hear more thing and you will be able to ask follow up questions.
Conclusion: Yes you can trust a psychic when you have done some research with the kind of psychic you are searching for.
There are psychics like in any other fields there are good ones and bad ones, their talented ones as well as not so talented.
Not everyone is as psychic as they pretend to be, and psychic do have their off days as well.
Depend on who
Not all psychic can help you for some are specialize in missing persons, contacting the dead or pass life events.
What you want to know
Taking the time to know what you want can make a difference in time and money in getting your answers.
Knowing that you need help with specific questions and you have chosen the right psychic makes a difference.
Holding to the past
When you hold on to past events it stops you from moving on and living the life you are meant to live.
Having a psychic reading can shed some light on the emotional places within that is holding you back.
You may not be aware that you are being held back by these pass events yet you know that you life has been on hold.
Fear
The emotional feeling of fear can stop you in your tracks from moving forward and you may not know how to move ahead with these fears.
This is one of the biggest stumbling blocks that many people have to deal with and you may be one of them.
Blaming
Blaming yourself or another because is another emotional sabotage that you may confront in your healing process.
When you take the time to get help from a psychic you may be shown how to heal these emotional feelings and change your life for good.
If the psychic is blaming you then trust your hunches or your gut feelings that psychic is not good for you.
Change
As you take the time to get a reading you can expect that you will be shown ways to help you change you life that is aligning to your needs.
Trusting
One of the first steps to do when you are getting a reading is to ask around from family and friends for a good psychic they may have gone to and then you open yourself to trust in the psychic.
If you do not feel right with the psychic or that they are all negative or not helping you then you know you have gone to the wrong psychic.
Listening
Listening to the psychic is a big part that will help you to make the change in your life.
As you listen you will be hear more thing and you will be able to ask follow up questions.
Conclusion: Yes you can trust a psychic when you have done some research with the kind of psychic you are searching for.
Glory Mcdade
Maureen K. Terry asked:
Passing on wealth has been tricky business since the time of ancient Egypt and Greece. Unaware of the inner workings of wealth, most people have little knowledge of this vast and fascinating subject. Before determining the fate of heirs, here are some checkpoints to ensure property, cash (and even gold!) are handled properly and get into the hands of the right people.
Easy to get and create, the Living Trust offers a way to pass on wealth without the complications of going through Probate Court. With a couple of witnesses, the simplest forms, available at stationery stores or from the Internet, solve the two most common problems:
1. To whom the assets pass.
2. Identification of these assets.
Because most people have not been educated in the art of passing on wealth, though, they believe their Living Trust just goes into effect upon their passing. This is not, necessarily, true. The Trustors, those setting up the Trust, need to take the time to identify and transfer into the Trust what they plan to pass to their heirs. This avoids confusion, and even agony. Loved one can be well provided for, only IF the assets have been properly handled properly.
Neglect
If a person has a Living Trust, signed it, then put it on the shelf without doing anything else, he or she may have wasted time and money. Even a Living Trust needs attention and proper administration.
If a person has a Living Trust has the following been handled?
1. If a Beneficiary is dissatisfied and wants to sue the Trustee for more of the assets, does the Living Trust have in it a “No Contest Clause?” This means that should any Beneficiary sue, causing a dissipation of the Trust resources, the Beneficiary automatically loses his or her inheritance.
2. What happens if the original Trustors, those who set up the Trust, and then became the initial Trustees, are unable to perform their duties? How should the Trust funds be handled, and exactly when does the named Successor Trustee take over?
3. Is there a provision for amendments? That is, can the Trustor(s) change the terms of the Trust during the lifetime?
a. If there are any amendments to the original Living Trust, what is the procedure?
b. Should the Beneficiaries be told about the changes?
c. Should the Successor Trustee be told about the changes?
4. Have funds been earmarked as Trust funds?
a. Has a separate checking account been put in the Trust’s name? If not, the Trust was never funded and there is no Trust.
b. Has identified property, such as the residential home, been transferred at the county to be in the Trust? If not, then the property is not part of the Living Trust.
5. Is there enough documentation in the Living Trust so the Successor Trustee can open a checking account in the name of the Trust?
Accounting
As the initial Trustee(s) of the Living Trust all the assets remain under the control of the Trustor(s), who can spend the funds without discrimination; these initial Trustees, though, still need to keep records for the Living Trust. Whoever is Successor Trustee becomes responsible to produce those records after the Trustor(s) pass, as well as keep accounting records for how Trust funds are handled. The Beneficiaries have a right to know what happened to the funds the Trustors said belong to them. (Evangelho v. Presoto (1998) 67 Cal.App. 4th 615 , 79 Cal.Rptr.2d 146.)
The need to account to the Beneficiaries for Trust funds, keeps the Successor Trustee honest. Any Trustee who will not share the accounting and have full communication with the Beneficiaries is suspect and only adds to the family stress.
Giving Away the Goods
Further, as the initial Trustee of the Living Trust, assets cannot arbitrarily be given away if they have been earmarked as part of the Trust. This means the Trustors cannot give the residential property to the nurse who is taking care of them while everyone else awaits the funeral. The Beneficiaries can sue, and get the property back. Not only that, but caregivers cannot, by law, accept any gifts.
Assets
Identification
Disputes that can happen over assets are sometimes more awful than the worst nightmare. Cataloging what belongs in Trust is necessary to ensure it stays in the Trust and is properly handled. If an item is not in the Trust, that is, not listed and described as belonging to the Trust, then it is subject to a free-for-all, since the Beneficiaries can then argue over it. The Successor Trustee named in the Trust documents is not responsible for the item. For example, if a washer and dryer are not named as part of the original Trust assets, known as “corpus,” and two Beneficiaries want them, they need to decide without involving the Trustee.
Assets Held in Trust
If expensive jewelry is listed and each item photographed or described as belonging to the Trust, then the Trustee has the choice of cashing it in for current value and paying the cash to the Beneficiaries or giving the jewelry to the Beneficiary who is to have it, as stated in the Trust documents.
The same applies to the stock account, or any other investment. Once in the Trust, the Successor Trustee decides how it is to be handled. When it is not in the Trust, lengthy procedures to get it into the Trust can occur.
Residential Property
The biggest asset is usually residential property. If the Trustors, acting as Trustees, have not transferred the asset at the County Recorder’s Office into the name of the Living Trust, then it does not belong to the Trust and the Successor Trustee needs to transfer it before it can be sold. This transfer process could be lengthy and expensive or relatively simple.
Distribution
A Living Trust is designed to be parceled out to the Beneficiaries after the death of the Trustors. If they are in a nursing home and unable to function, the expenses for their care come out of the Living Trust assets and the Contingent Beneficiaries, those who receive assets upon the death of the Trustor(s), may not get anything.
When all goes well, assets have been properly transferred and identified in the Living Trust, and the Trustors die fairly close together without exhausting Trust assets. The Successor Trustee then delivers the assets by either cashing them out, such as selling the property, and disbursing the proceeds, or gives the assets to those named in the Trust documents.
Unfortunately, most people are not educated about the ways of a Trust, and more often than not, nothing has been identified and transferred, leaving a delay in distribution, and a burden on the Successor Trustee, who is usually a close family member.
Communication
Unfinished business
When parents die, family matters are often emotionally charged with unresolved needs, and competition for assets or dominance may occur. The state of affairs of a Living Trust can cause grief. This ranges from, “Mom said I should get the . . .” to “You can’t do that, I will not get my . . .” The lack of trust in the Trust can become the major issue.
Consultants
Before the assets become the responsibility of the Successor Trustee, who is usually completely in the dark about the financial status of the Trust, the Trustors should consult with professionals about how to handle the administrative needs of the Trust, and meet with their Successor to go over important details.
When a family is dysfunctional, it is best to get the communication matters handled first. For the badgered, uninitiated and overwhelmed Trustee, consult with professionals before trying to muddle through Trust documents and answer the family members’ questions. Such time and money will be well spent, especially if complex financial matters need sorting out. It is important the Trustee gets the accounting, legal and tax matters straight before communicating with family members about the Trust details.
Wealth Building
The Living Trust and all revocable Trusts are not built to last. Long-range wealth-building methods and procedures are not applied when planning solely to pass on assets to untrained heirs. Unless one’s children are oriented professionally about financial matters, whatever wealth the Trustors accumulated during their lifetime is likely to be lost by the next generation. This is well planned by those who want to ensure the family does not gather any power as shown by the following:
“People are kidding themselves. They don’t have the buying power they used to have. A lot of the people living today don’t know what the buying power of success was before we decided to use excessive income taxes to punish success and estate and gift taxes to force every generation to start from scratch.” (Emphasis added.) . . .
T. Coleman Andrews, IRS Commissioner, 1953 to 1955
(“Why The Income Tax is Bad, Interview with T. Coleman Andrews, Former Commissioner of Internal Revenue,” U.S. News and World Report, May 25, 1956)
Irrevocable Trusts
Where wealth can be amassed, if properly managed, is when it is given to professional third parties to act as Trustees for the untrained Beneficiaries, who lack financial experience and have no long-range goals.
Only those who are sufficiently educated, though, in Trust protocols should have a Trust of this nature. One can get the information through a serious search on the Internet using keywords about Inheritance, Irrevocable Trusts, and Common-Law Trusts. The last requires the more sophisticated knowledge, and is often the subject of scam Trusts—those set up improperly by the uninitiated.
By knowing the objective of all Trusts is to pass wealth to Beneficiaries, it is easy to judge the correctly set up Trusts from those which are not. If anyone states a person can be the Trustee of his or own Irrevocable Trust, that person is either lying or dangerously ignorant. Further, all Common-Law Trusts are Irrevocable and require a nonrelated Trustee.
Summary
Passing on wealth is an art form. Doing it casually causes dissipation of wealth. Needing to keep personal control does not allow a build-up of wealth in the family, and each generation must then start over to generate wealth.
The Trustor(s) can assign the assets in the Living Trust to an Irrevocable Trust at the time of his or her death, naming the Trustees in the Living Trust documents. It depends on what is needed and how plans for heirs are developed.
Jennell Dolder
Passing on wealth has been tricky business since the time of ancient Egypt and Greece. Unaware of the inner workings of wealth, most people have little knowledge of this vast and fascinating subject. Before determining the fate of heirs, here are some checkpoints to ensure property, cash (and even gold!) are handled properly and get into the hands of the right people.
Easy to get and create, the Living Trust offers a way to pass on wealth without the complications of going through Probate Court. With a couple of witnesses, the simplest forms, available at stationery stores or from the Internet, solve the two most common problems:
1. To whom the assets pass.
2. Identification of these assets.
Because most people have not been educated in the art of passing on wealth, though, they believe their Living Trust just goes into effect upon their passing. This is not, necessarily, true. The Trustors, those setting up the Trust, need to take the time to identify and transfer into the Trust what they plan to pass to their heirs. This avoids confusion, and even agony. Loved one can be well provided for, only IF the assets have been properly handled properly.
Neglect
If a person has a Living Trust, signed it, then put it on the shelf without doing anything else, he or she may have wasted time and money. Even a Living Trust needs attention and proper administration.
If a person has a Living Trust has the following been handled?
1. If a Beneficiary is dissatisfied and wants to sue the Trustee for more of the assets, does the Living Trust have in it a “No Contest Clause?” This means that should any Beneficiary sue, causing a dissipation of the Trust resources, the Beneficiary automatically loses his or her inheritance.
2. What happens if the original Trustors, those who set up the Trust, and then became the initial Trustees, are unable to perform their duties? How should the Trust funds be handled, and exactly when does the named Successor Trustee take over?
3. Is there a provision for amendments? That is, can the Trustor(s) change the terms of the Trust during the lifetime?
a. If there are any amendments to the original Living Trust, what is the procedure?
b. Should the Beneficiaries be told about the changes?
c. Should the Successor Trustee be told about the changes?
4. Have funds been earmarked as Trust funds?
a. Has a separate checking account been put in the Trust’s name? If not, the Trust was never funded and there is no Trust.
b. Has identified property, such as the residential home, been transferred at the county to be in the Trust? If not, then the property is not part of the Living Trust.
5. Is there enough documentation in the Living Trust so the Successor Trustee can open a checking account in the name of the Trust?
Accounting
As the initial Trustee(s) of the Living Trust all the assets remain under the control of the Trustor(s), who can spend the funds without discrimination; these initial Trustees, though, still need to keep records for the Living Trust. Whoever is Successor Trustee becomes responsible to produce those records after the Trustor(s) pass, as well as keep accounting records for how Trust funds are handled. The Beneficiaries have a right to know what happened to the funds the Trustors said belong to them. (Evangelho v. Presoto (1998) 67 Cal.App. 4th 615 , 79 Cal.Rptr.2d 146.)
The need to account to the Beneficiaries for Trust funds, keeps the Successor Trustee honest. Any Trustee who will not share the accounting and have full communication with the Beneficiaries is suspect and only adds to the family stress.
Giving Away the Goods
Further, as the initial Trustee of the Living Trust, assets cannot arbitrarily be given away if they have been earmarked as part of the Trust. This means the Trustors cannot give the residential property to the nurse who is taking care of them while everyone else awaits the funeral. The Beneficiaries can sue, and get the property back. Not only that, but caregivers cannot, by law, accept any gifts.
Assets
Identification
Disputes that can happen over assets are sometimes more awful than the worst nightmare. Cataloging what belongs in Trust is necessary to ensure it stays in the Trust and is properly handled. If an item is not in the Trust, that is, not listed and described as belonging to the Trust, then it is subject to a free-for-all, since the Beneficiaries can then argue over it. The Successor Trustee named in the Trust documents is not responsible for the item. For example, if a washer and dryer are not named as part of the original Trust assets, known as “corpus,” and two Beneficiaries want them, they need to decide without involving the Trustee.
Assets Held in Trust
If expensive jewelry is listed and each item photographed or described as belonging to the Trust, then the Trustee has the choice of cashing it in for current value and paying the cash to the Beneficiaries or giving the jewelry to the Beneficiary who is to have it, as stated in the Trust documents.
The same applies to the stock account, or any other investment. Once in the Trust, the Successor Trustee decides how it is to be handled. When it is not in the Trust, lengthy procedures to get it into the Trust can occur.
Residential Property
The biggest asset is usually residential property. If the Trustors, acting as Trustees, have not transferred the asset at the County Recorder’s Office into the name of the Living Trust, then it does not belong to the Trust and the Successor Trustee needs to transfer it before it can be sold. This transfer process could be lengthy and expensive or relatively simple.
Distribution
A Living Trust is designed to be parceled out to the Beneficiaries after the death of the Trustors. If they are in a nursing home and unable to function, the expenses for their care come out of the Living Trust assets and the Contingent Beneficiaries, those who receive assets upon the death of the Trustor(s), may not get anything.
When all goes well, assets have been properly transferred and identified in the Living Trust, and the Trustors die fairly close together without exhausting Trust assets. The Successor Trustee then delivers the assets by either cashing them out, such as selling the property, and disbursing the proceeds, or gives the assets to those named in the Trust documents.
Unfortunately, most people are not educated about the ways of a Trust, and more often than not, nothing has been identified and transferred, leaving a delay in distribution, and a burden on the Successor Trustee, who is usually a close family member.
Communication
Unfinished business
When parents die, family matters are often emotionally charged with unresolved needs, and competition for assets or dominance may occur. The state of affairs of a Living Trust can cause grief. This ranges from, “Mom said I should get the . . .” to “You can’t do that, I will not get my . . .” The lack of trust in the Trust can become the major issue.
Consultants
Before the assets become the responsibility of the Successor Trustee, who is usually completely in the dark about the financial status of the Trust, the Trustors should consult with professionals about how to handle the administrative needs of the Trust, and meet with their Successor to go over important details.
When a family is dysfunctional, it is best to get the communication matters handled first. For the badgered, uninitiated and overwhelmed Trustee, consult with professionals before trying to muddle through Trust documents and answer the family members’ questions. Such time and money will be well spent, especially if complex financial matters need sorting out. It is important the Trustee gets the accounting, legal and tax matters straight before communicating with family members about the Trust details.
Wealth Building
The Living Trust and all revocable Trusts are not built to last. Long-range wealth-building methods and procedures are not applied when planning solely to pass on assets to untrained heirs. Unless one’s children are oriented professionally about financial matters, whatever wealth the Trustors accumulated during their lifetime is likely to be lost by the next generation. This is well planned by those who want to ensure the family does not gather any power as shown by the following:
“People are kidding themselves. They don’t have the buying power they used to have. A lot of the people living today don’t know what the buying power of success was before we decided to use excessive income taxes to punish success and estate and gift taxes to force every generation to start from scratch.” (Emphasis added.) . . .
T. Coleman Andrews, IRS Commissioner, 1953 to 1955
(“Why The Income Tax is Bad, Interview with T. Coleman Andrews, Former Commissioner of Internal Revenue,” U.S. News and World Report, May 25, 1956)
Irrevocable Trusts
Where wealth can be amassed, if properly managed, is when it is given to professional third parties to act as Trustees for the untrained Beneficiaries, who lack financial experience and have no long-range goals.
Only those who are sufficiently educated, though, in Trust protocols should have a Trust of this nature. One can get the information through a serious search on the Internet using keywords about Inheritance, Irrevocable Trusts, and Common-Law Trusts. The last requires the more sophisticated knowledge, and is often the subject of scam Trusts—those set up improperly by the uninitiated.
By knowing the objective of all Trusts is to pass wealth to Beneficiaries, it is easy to judge the correctly set up Trusts from those which are not. If anyone states a person can be the Trustee of his or own Irrevocable Trust, that person is either lying or dangerously ignorant. Further, all Common-Law Trusts are Irrevocable and require a nonrelated Trustee.
Summary
Passing on wealth is an art form. Doing it casually causes dissipation of wealth. Needing to keep personal control does not allow a build-up of wealth in the family, and each generation must then start over to generate wealth.
The Trustor(s) can assign the assets in the Living Trust to an Irrevocable Trust at the time of his or her death, naming the Trustees in the Living Trust documents. It depends on what is needed and how plans for heirs are developed.
Jennell Dolder
Kenneth Elliott asked:
ry has definitely rose to another level with this movie, The Family That Preys. Lead by academy Award winner Kathy Bates and Academy Award nominee Alfre Woodard star as patriots of two families that are connected not by blood but by a long time friendship but is being torn apart by greed and marital irregularities. This, the sixth full feature film of Tyler Perry chronicles the life of two families. One a working class family and the other a upper-crust who become intermingled with scandal.
Kathy Bates who plays a wealthy socialite Charlotte Cartwright and Alice Pratt played by Alfre Woodard as working class mother of two ladies lives are turned upside down as there adult children’s extramarital affairs, unethical business practices and a dark paternity secret threaten to derail family fortunes and flip the lives of everyone involved. Andrea the daughter of Alice Pratt played by Sanaa Lathan betrays her trusting husband Chris played by Rockmond Dunbar for years as she engages in an long lasting affair with her boss William played by Cole Hauser who also happens to be the son of Charlotte Carwright.
The greed comes with the alternative motives of William as he is also focusing on becoming COO of his families company by putting together a billion dollar deal that forces his mother to sell off controlling shares of the company and having her voted off the board of directors. His plan backfires when his mother finds out about the plot and you will just have to see the movie to learn the rest.
I cannot praise this movie enough and I will have to say that this is the best movie thus far that Tyler Perry has put together. The all star cast drove the points home and he everyone in the crowd on the end of there seats through the entire movie. At the end the room rose with a standing applause and cheers. I myself even joined in the action.
As for children, I would say that children could watch this movie but they will probably not understand the situations. There are not parts that would warrant covering children eyes, nor is their vague wording.
Overall, this was a fabulous movie that if I had time would watch twice without any hesitation.
Sanford Skrocki
ry has definitely rose to another level with this movie, The Family That Preys. Lead by academy Award winner Kathy Bates and Academy Award nominee Alfre Woodard star as patriots of two families that are connected not by blood but by a long time friendship but is being torn apart by greed and marital irregularities. This, the sixth full feature film of Tyler Perry chronicles the life of two families. One a working class family and the other a upper-crust who become intermingled with scandal.
Kathy Bates who plays a wealthy socialite Charlotte Cartwright and Alice Pratt played by Alfre Woodard as working class mother of two ladies lives are turned upside down as there adult children’s extramarital affairs, unethical business practices and a dark paternity secret threaten to derail family fortunes and flip the lives of everyone involved. Andrea the daughter of Alice Pratt played by Sanaa Lathan betrays her trusting husband Chris played by Rockmond Dunbar for years as she engages in an long lasting affair with her boss William played by Cole Hauser who also happens to be the son of Charlotte Carwright.
The greed comes with the alternative motives of William as he is also focusing on becoming COO of his families company by putting together a billion dollar deal that forces his mother to sell off controlling shares of the company and having her voted off the board of directors. His plan backfires when his mother finds out about the plot and you will just have to see the movie to learn the rest.
I cannot praise this movie enough and I will have to say that this is the best movie thus far that Tyler Perry has put together. The all star cast drove the points home and he everyone in the crowd on the end of there seats through the entire movie. At the end the room rose with a standing applause and cheers. I myself even joined in the action.
As for children, I would say that children could watch this movie but they will probably not understand the situations. There are not parts that would warrant covering children eyes, nor is their vague wording.
Overall, this was a fabulous movie that if I had time would watch twice without any hesitation.
Sanford Skrocki